Feeling a little conflicted

[Rudolph26]

So, this has to do with my previous posts concerning the guy I’m interested in. He is still here and we already went on one date. It was by far the best date I’ve had and we just had a really good time. We kissed as well and to my surprise it didn’t seem weird. It felt like the most natural thing in the world. (Which is a first for me btw). Not to mention he is an amazing kisser lol. Anyway, that’s not the point. He still seems really unsure about us being together and I’m not sure why... I don’t know if it’s a gut feeling he has or if he is just being overly cautious because we are best friends, or if it’s both. I just don’t know...

My conflict:

I really do like him, and admire who he is. I’m attracted to his personality and at times I’m sexually attracted to him as well. But, I also feel hesitant. This feeling I have for him is different in contrast to everyone else I’ve been with. In the past it was this Passionate lust I had for the guy as well as admiration but I never had trust. In this case, I don’t have a passionate list for him, I have deep respect for him and admiration as well as a deep love that I’ve always had for him. I trust him and when we kiss I feel like I’m in the safest place in the world. It feels like the equivalent to giving someone a hug and feeling so warm, comfortable and safe. Instead of passionate and sex driven.

It’s not that I don’t have sexual feelings when kissing him, it’s just that it isn’t in the forefront of my mind. Does that make sense? I’ve never felt more safe and secure with someone and I’ve never felt so comfortable being vulnerable with someone either. But I almost feel like our friendship outweighs our relationship as a couple. But then again, I’ve never dated my best friend and I’m not sure if this is a good or a bad thing.

People say you should marry your best friend, but how do you know when something should be more then friends? I know it has to be more then the physical aspect, but what should it be and how do you know?

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Best advice I could give you is just be honest with each other. If you want a romantic relationship and he doesn't, don't force it. But at the same time don't be afraid to move forward because you're scared of losing what you have now. If it's meant to be it will be.