Depression

[kwgirl]

How do I get out of a depression ?

[Hidden]

Try: Guided mindful meditation youtube, just google!

[kenster1]

hi and welcome aboard sorry your feeling depressed dedication goes a long way to managing ourselves better but talking is the best form of recovery.

[Turtle74]

I'm sorry you're feeling down. I had depression it comes out once in awhile. I had to think positive about things. It takes time.

[kwgirl in reply to Turtle74]

Thank you for replying. I’m having a hard time thinking of positives sometimes. I feel stuck. Mostly my husbands moods and dementia is sucking the life out of me. When he wants to “be normal” he can, but he rather wallow and be lazy.

[Turtle74 in reply to kwgirl]

I would get a hobby to do. To keep your mind off things. It sounds like your husband puts alot of stress on you.

[kwgirl in reply to Turtle74]

It’s funny because he never asks for anything!! I have always been the type to take care of people needs. If I go out, I worry he won’t eat, or do anything other than lay on the couch and watch TV, rarely gets dressed, he was never like this before his stroke then dementia, now he will say I had a stroke U know, when asked why he doesn’t do anything. Our son says I’d he wants something bad enough he’ll do it himself. He blames me for not being able drive or work even tho he hears the drs say no he can’t. His short term memory sucks, he can’t start a project and finish it because he can no longer figure it out (when he use to do everything well, no matter what it is). He blames me. Then he got mad because I’m asking family members to do/fix things for me. Put a roof on shed, put lawn mower back together that he tried to fix and couldn’t figure it out after it was apart.

Is this all normal of dementia ? He gets so mean and he was always a very loving gentle giving man. He had his stroke at 71 yrs old. So all this is new.

We were always independent and secure in our marriage. But now he says he wants the he’ll out of here and I’m the worse thing that has happen to him. I know that’s the illness that talking.

But I can’t help hurting from it.

[kwgirl in reply to Turtle74]

I also spend a lot to time working outside in my yard gardening and such. Which I never did before because I was a workaholic. Can’t work now tho.

[Hidden]

Have you tried therapy? Sorry you’re feeling this way

[kwgirl in reply to Hidden]

Yes, I was seeing a therapist until COVID19 put everyone in quarantine and haven’t heard from her since. I think I’ll call her this week. I’m disappointed she didn’t do tele visits but I liked her and don’t want to start over.

[Hidden in reply to kwgirl]

I know the feeling