For me

[Pizzaparty]

I’ve noticed that i have this pattern of trying to live up to everyone else’s expectations of me instead of living for myself and not caring about other people’s views of me

When I was younger I was always expected to follow the rules and never question authoritarian figures and then also growing up in a religious household i was also always expected to live life according to biblical rules , I’ve always felt like a slave in a sense simply because if ever i were to rebel , trouble would somehow follow

As i got older i noticed that the pattern of thinking carried on in my friendships and relationships , if ever i felt like I’d upset someone or disappointed them somehow I always feel like “i cant do anything right”

Idk truly if these past instances are the cause of my current behavior but nevertheless i want to live and think carefree , for me

[HelpingElbow]

Hi Pizzaparty

In many ways, this is exactly my story! I don't know, we could be related. Haha.

Pardon me but I must answer this truthfully. In your last paragraph, you inquired whether your past instances are responsible for your current condition. YES, A STRONG YES.

Are you to be blamed? Absolutely not!

When there's an inherent thinking of living up to someone's expectations, more often than not, you will end up disappointing yourself. Putting other people's happiness before yours is never wise.

Now, you don't wanna fight, you don't wanna argue, you don't wanna disappoint anybody... these are some of the visible patterns of unhappiness within yourself.

Let's employ a corrective solution! Prioritize your happiness before other people's happiness. Once you're content with yourself, expand the horizon for other people.

Remember: First, care for yourself. Never rebel, just follow your heart!

[Pizzaparty in reply to HelpingElbow]

Really needed that thank you so much !❤️

[Agora1 in reply to HelpingElbow]

Beautifully said HelpingElbow xx