no friends

With all that is going on you come to realize some people that call themselves our friends tend to aviod you. Seeing my friend having fun with someone else hurts. Why can't I be like that not caring for social distancing and hang with her. I do miss her but I have to notice that I'm better alone. Maybe being single, no kids nobody to care for is gaining on me. It's time to leave everyone behind and dive into this black hole that has been there just hidden from sight but still waiting for my return. Deep down is it really about not having true friends or am I the issue. Is it easier to run away then fight by my side. I'm being to understand why I'm meant to stay alone. Maybe I'll just vanish into the darkness. Nobody to care for nobody to cry for. My most loyal friend will always be loneliness

[enigmaticide]

This pandemic HAS made it easier for the anti-social to justify their natural tendencies. Tragically, even the professional-anti-socialites must occasionally accept that other people are sometimes important; this brings me to the thought process of, "you get what you give." Simply put, if you would like to have someone show interest/concern over you and your well being, you sometimes have to make the first move. If there's a friend or family member that's been on your mind, fire off a text, phone call, anything with a message indicating that you're interested in how they are doing; it doesn't take much. Do this with enough people, for long enough duration, and you may find yourself with the social bonds that you're currently lacking. Now, if you'll excuse me, there's a solitary, darkened corner that's been patiently awaiting me. I was never here. This conversation never happened.

[Hidden in reply to enigmaticide]

I agree with Enigmaticide. I'm an Introvert. I don't like large groups and when things become too peopley I get very nervous.

Like you I don't have a lot of friends however I have a few really great ones and a cousin who lives out of state I am close to. I met a new neighbor during lock down as well.

In talking with my Therapist who is 2x weekly via Telehealth until get office reopens. I started texting to reach out when I felt lonely just to say hello, how are you, hope all is well..etc..quick "I'm thinking of you" texts. Well, honestly I felt so much better just simply reaching out a little bit and I would soon receive a text back. I felt better and less lonely.

Give it a shot and let me know if it helps...now, like Enigmaticide, my dark corner awaits. Well, I need a bit of light to read, my favorite activity.

Peace my friend,

Gretel331 ⚓🌻

[Uphillyeti]

I understand it hurting when friends dont hit you up to do things. But have you tried throwing a line to them. Sometimes others think you do not like them because you do not initiate contact with them. Throw out a text to them and invite them to chat. If they do not want to interact with you then maybe its time to find new friends.

[Mary-intussuception]

You are doing the right thing. Sometimes that can be really hard going.

Those who choose to break the Social Distancing rule might regret it one day, but your conscience will be clear.

True friends can keep in touch by text, email or other ways of messaging and arrange to call each other for a chat.

I think it helps to remember during the tough times, that we are precious.

Never forget that you are Precious ❤️

xx