giving something new a try

[icl93]

hi everyone, i hope you're all doing well. we all made it here so that's a start!

i've always been someone who's there and understanding for others but downplays my problems and views my own depression, anxiety, and limitations as shameful. i've recently moved back home with my mom but i'm making my way out into the world again. i've had a few false starts and i'm afraid that i'm slowly losing the ability to take care of myself without getting in my own way. when things get hard i tend to give up, so i'm looking for tools. i want to be able to find faith in the process, so that i can find the drive to keep inching forward when i'm overwhelmed by depression and self doubt. obviously the economy is in bad shape right now and i'm terrified that i'll be paralyzed by my own fear, blow all of my money, and end up trying to crash land at home again (i'm 27, it's destroying my relationship with my mom, and this isn't an option anymore). i know times will be hard, that's just life. what are some of the ways you've been able to get through the darker times and keep your lives from falling apart?

thankful for any response!

[silentdreamer20]

Advice on how to NOT let your life fall apart, I don't have any. I'm still trying to figure that out. However, I can relate to what you said.

The relationship with your mom will be able to withstand it, she's your mom. Always remember that she IS your mom, so if she is good to you, make sure she knows how much you appreciate her. Small gestures go so far with women, moms are also in that category.

As for coping... Honestly, I would probably go crazy if it weren't for the few good friends that I still have. I run a support group, so I do tend to do the "Brave face" and downplay my mental health. By doing that, I can be there for my members without them feeling guilty when they have so much going on. Leaning on each other has done wonders, though, seriously!

I do like it here because we are anonymous, that is awesome! *yeah, I'm laughing at myself.*

I have gotten into a habit of telling myself that "Tomorrow may not be like today," and the meaning behind that is pretty simple. I got sick a while back and the only way I got from day to day was pep talks (no joke!) I told myself that today sucked, but tomorrow may be better. I was never disappointed, and I was always mentally prepared for any possibility, whether it was good or bad.

[Jason_16 in reply to silentdreamer20]

Slientdreamer that was great advice. I too have some good friends who I trust to take care of me and they do the best they can and chats like this are also great to connect with others and understand their plight which better helps you understand yours. Try and stay positive and hope that tomorrow will be better than today, but also prepare yourself for failure because not everything works out (that does not mean to not try cause you miss all the shots you don't take)

[silentdreamer20 in reply to Jason_16]

Yes, exactly! I’m glad you have good friends you can talk to, they truly make such a difference.