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[Guy17]

I’ve been pretty hesitant to get involved in something like this but I figured I’d give it a shot. Not too long ago I tried to take my own life. I recently went through a break up and a few weeks later I lost my grandmother. A little before that my father left the family. The pain from a breakup is different than that of losing a family member and now I’m having to deal with both of those at the same time. This pandemic took a lot from a lot of people. It’s taken away my coping mechanisms as well. I’d normally rely on alcohol, drugs and going out with friends to take my mind off all my problems, but because universities and everything else is closed, I can’t. I’ve given up on my faith and it seems like there’s no end in sight. All I really want is a break. For something good to happen to me because I’m not sure how much longer I can take it

[Shellarina65]

Dear Guy17,

I’m very sorry for all you are going through. Life can be so hard sometimes. I’ve been very sad lately and have had a hard time finding the good. One thing I’ve been trying to do is pull up some of the best times from my past. When I think back to my favorite moments, really see them and relive them in my mind, it brings a smile to my face. Then I hold on to that, feel gratefulness for those joyful moments in my life and know these hard times will pass. I don’t know if that will help you but I truly hope it helps a little. This life is a roller coaster and it will go up again....

[Agora1 in reply to Shellarina65]

Shellarina65, a good analogy of "Life" xx

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Hi there, I hear you and I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I can tell you that the breakups can be so much worse than losing a family member to death-- that is because you know the person is still alive and you want to reach out and you still want the person (no matter what the relationship was like). People can be intoxicating.. and one of my former therapists likened it to being on drugs and it is. Try extricating yourself from a relationship, even a friendship, even one that is abusive and unfulfilling. The sense of loss can be overwhelming and then knowing that with one text or call you can get your fix. ... I know ... I have dealt with what you're dealing with (though my grandmother's death is still very painful, 4 1/2 years later). Please try some other coping skills (not that I'm one to talk but still): text friends; post here; read books; listen to music (I've been falling in love with artists all over again especially their rarer songs that are live...); etc. I hope you find some solace today.