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I don't know what to do anymore

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I've been with my husband for almost 13 yrs. There has been good times and the has been bad. I'm know I'm not perfect but I try my best to make everything good. I believe my husband has an angry issue and is a narcissistic person. He always had to be right. I want to leave at times but then i think of my kids. How much it would hurt them. Also i have no money saved and really no place to go. So what do i do. About 2 weeks ago i got hurt trying to stop him from going to far on his punishment on my son.

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I’m so sorry to hear this. Please know that you’re not alone. If your husband has anger issues and is taking this out on you and/or your son, it is absolutely imperative that leave before he hurts either one of you. Please call your local domestic abuse hotline. They can advise you on what options you have and places that you and your son can go.

If you feel he is not a physical threat and that you and your son are safe, I would start looking for jobs, places to stay, etc. It isn’t a healthy situation for anyone right now and some time apart with couples/ family counseling could make a huge difference. YOU deserve to feel peace and happiness.

I wish you all the best in your journey and said a big prayer for you and your son. ❤️

I am sorry for what you’re going through. You absolutely are not alone, even though you may feel that way. I was married to an abusive narcissistic man for 32 years. Like you, I didn’t want to leave because I thought it was better for my children. When I did finally leave my children were grown and out of the house. They said to me the night I left, that they wished I had done it years earlier. I’m not going to tell you that it is easy, because it’s not. But I will tell you once I had time to heal and find myself again, all the hard work was definitely worth it. You deserve to be happy.

Firstly the government says you must leave the home if your in the hands of domestic abuse. And they have funded extra money to help you people like you.

Firstly you say you try your gets. That’s the first song go there’s a problem. No one should need to try. ... you should both work together in harmony.

The first thing you need to do is accept you need to move your family out. It’s known that women stay to keep the family together..... and you know what it’s making you ill.

Don’t worry about Accomodation and money as the trained services will sort that out for you.

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There is a better life for you and your family ahead. It’s you who needs to take the action. to leave

Big hugs and find the strength to do this

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I hear you and I am sorry that you feel this way. It sounds as though you feel trapped in a situation you cannot think yourself out of. When I feel that way, the only way out of those feelings is for me to act, or otherwise make a decision. Every day you do not leave, you decide to leave. I agree with the other replies: if your physical safety is at risk, please reach out to the resources to make steps and use those resources to leave the situation and get to a place of safety. Unfortunately, only you can make this decision to leave. I wish you the best of luck, peace, and safety.

Please believe me, I have been there Done that. I was married to a abusive drunk for 10yrs. I had two children. Back in my day, they didn't have places where women could go. Today there's so many great places that take in women and her children in beautiful places to help them get on their feet and housing. Please make sure you don't wait to long because the more your children see the more they believe that's the way all people live. Please think about the different options you can do. Speak with someone out of a Womens shelter. These homes that take in families are usely like big homes and beautiful. Please reach out to someone. Sending hugs and Prayers from Florida

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