Coping with sadness and depression

[Roukaya]

I have been affected by depression for many years and made worse by living by myself

I am fifty on my own and I struggle to pass the Diploma in Wills and Probate and struggle to find a years work experience.

I realise if I do not make the effort I will never come out of this position but as I am returning to study after a gap of twenty years part of me is quite negative towards me

I have also learnt that I will never allow anyone to cause me humiliation or pain again

I have a Mother but she is overseas and there are no job prospects for me over there

I think sometimes I cannot get over at times how brutal people can be when they end their friendship with me

But I also believe we reap what we sow

[blackcat64013]

I am on my own as well so I the effect of loneliness on mental wellbeing.

Your decision to study again is a positive step. If you are concerned that depression will affect your chances of completion, you can ask for assistance from the provider organisation to study as mental health is classed as a disability. Ideally study conducted face to face might be best as you will get out and about to meet fellow students and maybe find a study buddy. At this time of C-19 virus online learning might be offered. If you need some reassurance you can take it from me that success is possible. I had to design a strict schedule to ensure I could get time to study and do other life tasks when not feeling the best.

I actually changed the frequency of my psych appointments from 6 monthly check ups to monthly consults to help me work through this challenging time. I needed to be in a better head space before I could feel confident of success. Wishing you all the best

[Roukaya in reply to blackcat64013]

Thank you very much for answering my post

I hope you are well

I have been studying for a Diploma in Wills snd Probate for three years on line

I have missed the pass mark as I let personal worries take priority over my studies

It is being in Lock Down and speaking to a Psychotherapist who has made me understand this

I would like to explain I started the study in 2017 but due to personal worries I let this overwhelming me and I did not concentrate enough to pass the exam

It is only me and my Mother also alone lives overseas

How do you cope everyday with the self isolation and Lock Down

Thank you for reply

[Shutterbug65 in reply to Roukaya]

I understand about loneliness. I’m in my mid 50’s and I never been married and have no children. The need for companionship is overwhelming at times. My elderly aunt lives with me. I have anxiety and depression. I know how it feels to have personal worries take control and not finding fulfillment in life. Hang in there.

[Roukaya in reply to Shutterbug65]

Thank you for answering me

I have quite a bit to do but it is hard if the mental attitude is not too good

Thank you for reply