Hi, what do you guys do when you can’t get out of bed or you’re stuck to the sofa? Should I keep trying to get up and do things? Even the smallest things seem so big and I’m really worried I’ll be like this forever.
Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I’m so glad I found this site.
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Yes, you need to get up. Make a list and get something done. Even if it's a shower. Make a list of short goals. Do what you can. Crossing things off a list is an accomplishment.
Dolphin14, thanks a million. It’s really hard but I’m going to shower tomorrow and maybe try and do some laundry. Do you believe if I keep doing little things that it helps?
I’m just petrified I’ll be like this forever. I’m in so much pain and my body won’t do anything that I’d like it to do.
Hi
Yes I do believe if you push yourself a bit you will be ok. That was me a few years ago.
Keep the list small so you are not overwhelmed.
I think the goals you have set for today are great. Even if you only get one done you've done a great job.
It's about baby steps. I know you can do this. Just take it slow and be proud of what you cross off that list 
Ok, I will do a couple of small things each day and hopefully get stronger.
Thank you,
Thank you
Thank you!!!
I’m so appreciative of your advice and support
You are welcome. I've been where you are. Don't lose hope.
My apartment has been intolerably messy for a few years because I've been too depressed to do anything about it, feeling weak, and staying in bed/on the couch a lot of the time. I've decided to do a little bit of cleaning each day. This is whatever I feel strong enough to do at the time. So sometimes I'll walk down two flights of stairs carrying my laundry to the common laundry room in my apartment complex, and then carry it back up. And then sometimes I only feel strong enough to pick up an empty glass in the living room and set it on the kitchen counter to be washed later. Sometimes I will take out all the trash, and other times I will pick up just one piece and throw it away. Whatever I am strong enough to do, I applaud myself for trying to accomplish something, being in the mindset of self-improvement at least. What I am saying is, do what you can, and be kind to yourself, letting yourself rest when you need to.
BrainSurgeryFun, thank you for your post. I am so sorry you struggle, it’s so painful. It sounds like you are trying really hard and I applaud you for that. I sometimes feel like depression will be the death of me, it’s so so hard. I go to bed dreading how I’m gonna feel the next day. Maybe one day we will all recover.
Just make sure not too get fruit flies ..gaws that happened too me twice in life ..was HORRIBLE
Something which I used to do when I was working sounds really silly but it works. My mind would spin furiously round and argue constantly with itself trying to convince me to get moving. So I broke the connection by looking at my feet and issuing a stern command 'Get moving now' . To my surprise if I acted in that instant it worked. x
That sounds like a good idea, I’m going to try that, thanks so much.
You are welcome. Let me know if it works for you. x
I sure will! You guys are all so amazing on here....thank you so much!
I too find that focusing on one part of the body and getting that moving works well. It is less overwhelming to turn it into just a small piece and doing that task.
Hi, thank you for your response. I’m now focusing on getting my legs moving even though I absolutely dread it - when I complete a task I feel a little better. I just make myself do a couple of things each day. It’s weird, I’ll have an ok day and then the next day I’ll be paralyzed again. I feel like the episodes are getting longer and more painful each time......depression sucks!!!
This is me on the weekends when I don't have work. I lay there and just look at everything around me that needs to be done. The more you look and think about it, the worse it gets. I'm struggling too.😔
I’m so sorry you’re struggling, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Do you find that anything helps at all?
I just moved in with my brother and his wife because I’m not able to work right now and they kick me out of bed every morning at 8am. Some days I hate them for it and other days I’m grateful. I just love being in bed when I feel like this.
Thank you. I'm sorry you are having a hard time too. Nothing works for me. Nothing. If I don't want to get up and make an effort, then I won't. I have no one who lives with me, so no one to basically answer to.
I hear you! I lived alone and just didn’t get out of bed, didn’t eat much and didn’t shower. My family 5150’d me and I spent 5 weeks in hospital. What a horrible illness we have.
Oh wow-I'm SO SORRY to hear that!😔 My eating habits unfortunately run in the other direction! I get up during the week and work and do what I have to do. On the weekends-it's another story.
Thank you...it was for the best, I needed the help but still feel as miserable as ever.
I'm sorry for that.😞 I see that you are new to this site. Welcome!! It has really been wonderful for me. LOTS of great people and advice! 😊 Keep posting and stay with us!
I’m so happy I found you guys, I really am. Can’t thank you enough!
Dolphin has offered excellent advice . I have also been where you are now. It is so important to keep your body moving and that will help your internal as well as external organs . The whole person . Try doing a little more each day or so , there's no rush . When this pandemic is over you may be in great shape. I'm doing this also ...a new me for a new time . I will appreciate both.It's unspeakable that everyone won't get the chance so I don't want to waste mine. Stay well my friend. Pam
Thanks so much Pam, I will definitely try and do a little more each day. I can’t live like this, it’s too painful.
I understand that We can encourage each other
Yes, it means so much! Thank you!
I'm the same way. I have to force myself to do anything shower, take out the trash, water the plants etc. What I do is I just start doing something without thinking about it and I always finish. Then I feel better because I did it. It's hard I know.
Oh it’s so awful, I’m sorry you struggle too. It has a capacity to absolutely destroy people. It’s taken so much from me. I will try and do what you do. I’ll try anything.
Thanks so much!
I'm currently in and out of that dark place. Its a downward spiral of reeling thoughts. But sometimes I remember to give myself a lot of praise for anything I do. It cheers me up and motivates me to carry on.
Sometimes we slip into the hole without realising and totally normalise it. So its great you can see so clearly and want to change.
Plan a daily goal and a reward. If you shower then you get a treat. And love yourself all through it.
Oh thank you so much! It means the world to me to chat with people who actually get it. I’ve been told so many times to just get on with it or snap out of it. This is such a welcome change. I’m really sorry you struggle also.
Baby step it.. Ive been getting in this habit and its really affecting me negatively. But.. Can try to get a task done or a few little ones each day. Try to repeat self care ones as often as you can. Starting by taking care of yourself is priority.
Keep us updated with your progress. Being able to share what your able to get done might help keep you going. 👍
Hi, thank you so much, I will definitely keep you posted and I hope you take care of yourself and start feeling better.
Thank you, you're not alone.
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