Jobless and loveless

[MeganMegan]

I resigned from my toxic job 20 days ago. I was happy for the first 2 weeks. But now I am going down. I am sleeping all the time. My husband does not seem to care. He will just cry if he thinks I am going to leave my life with him! What kind of love this is? How can I help myself?

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Megan

Your Husband seems to be frightened you are going to leave him, It sounds like He is Depressed and is worried you are going to break this Partnership because of how you are acting out your Life. I do not feel or see any weakness here, possibly love.

You left employment after twenty years service because the position was toxic. Could you not have looked for a new job before leaving, to walk out with nowhere to go can make further employment more difficult to find.

Are there any reasons, does your husband work, is He Disabled, or similar ? Marriage is a partnership, sometimes when changes happen, this can cause problems within the Home

You need to both talk to each other have you any children I am not taking any sides here,

It is difficult to walk in an others shoes. Family dynamics need to be considered

BOB

[MeganMegan in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your reply. I left the job after 2 years. We do not have kids. I tried to find another job before quitting but did not work. My husband is not disabled or anything. He is so much worried for his job though. He works all the time. He has ADHD. I do not feel safe enough to bring any kids in this life. But I am 35 and do not have more time to get pregnant. And this makes me angry of my husband because I think it is his responsibility to bring safe feelings for me.

[Hidden in reply to MeganMegan]

Megan,

Marriage is supposed to provide safety and love for both partners. That is part of love.

In our house, if anyone crosses either of us the other will stand by the Partner, that is a given.

Children and your needs, I understand the reasons for not having children. We decided because most of my health problems are genetic. You need to talk out your problem together, possibly some form of CBT will help Your Doctor will advise

BOB

[LadyZen]

My ex-husband and I went through marriage counseling. It was the best decision of my life.

[Sprinkle1]

Hello, sorry life has given you a bowl of lemons, I know how difficult life can be. I was going to suggest the same thing LadyZen suggested, go to therapy, start by going for yourself, to help sort out your issues, then get your husband to come so you can work on your issues together. I would not want to bring children into today's world, and a lot of people are now opting out. You could always adopt later, or become a foster parent. As the saying goes: When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. You sound depressed and need to get to the bottom of that. Be kind to yourself and your husband, sounds like he really loves you. This will all end, look for the light at the end of the tunnel.....Sending love, courage, faith and hugs....Sprinkle 1....

[ChovanTang]

Try to get a new job, and have a long, deep talk with your husband.