Guilt and Fear

[Giraffe2]

I am really struggling with some intense fear and guilt regarding my kids. They are 6 and 4. This weekend my husband and I are taking a trip about 5 hours away without them (they are staying with my brother and his family). This is the first time we’re leaving them and I’m terrified. I feel so horrible taking this time away from them....for choosing over them....that I feel like I’ll be “punished”, and something horrible will happen to one of them or me (leaving them without a Mom).

Then today, my oldest was constantly wanting my time after work (as he should). I was exhausted and had no energy. He was also talking about the same thing over and over, and I found myself feeling annoyed. At what?!?! A six year old wanting to talk to his a Mom? I feel HORRIBLE. Now I’m almost CERTAIN something horrible will happen to him tmw (a school shooting at his elementary school) and this would be how I spent my last night with him.

I’m sorry. Thank you to anyone who read this far.

[jadenbeau]

Hey you need a break

Just because we are parents we should not forget that we are people with names

Not just mummy

I think it's healthy to have you time.

I have a hypo 7 year old that never ever shuts up and says the same thing over and over and I feel myself getting wound up

I feelike screaming shut uppppp lol

My problem is I've made her my life that's all I have. At the mo she's at my mums because I. Trying to come off benzos but I need to build a life back up just for me

Even when I see my friends it's to do something with the kids.

Have a break enjoy yourself and it will do u the world of good.

When we spend every minute with our kids the little things do start to get to you.

Don't feel guilty every mu deserves some ti e for herself x

[Giraffe2 in reply to jadenbeau]

Thank you so much

[jadenbeau in reply to Giraffe2]

Your welcome. It's not bad to have time away from your children, they will love it to a big adventure at their uncles x

[courageovercomfort]

I understand this! Mom guilt is real! But it’s okay that we take care of ourselves. Actually, it’s a must. I’ve heard this metaphor & use it a lot when I’m feeling guilty for taking time for myself: when traveling on planes they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first before helping others. This is the same, we cannot be of service to our children or family if we don’t take care of ourselves. Hang in there!!