Life went for bad to hell

[LfhJoe91]

Been awhile since ive posted anything was doing ok. Now it's worse then ever. My relationship just took a nosedive found out my girlfriend for 8 years and mother to my son has been secretly seeing other guys behind my back. She feeds me lie after lie and now I'm convinced I've been dating a sociopath.

[EleanorRose]

So sorry to hear this, I can imagine it’s been difficult for you to get your head around.

Some people are very skilled liars, especially when it comes to protecting themselves. Sometimes people can get away with these types of things for years if they’re particularly good at it.

Do you know how you want to go on from here? Are you going to leave her? Try and work things out?

There is not right or wrong way to deal with it - everyone handles these sorts of things differently. Give yourself some space to think about what YOU want - don’t allow your thoughts to be swayed by hers.

[LfhJoe91 in reply to EleanorRose]

Thanks for the reply. We have definitely parted ways. I tried to work with her but I ask for the truth and find out she gives me more lies. I'm now tied to her with my son and cant worry more about his mental wellbeing growing up.

[Lulububs]

The question u need to ask yourself is “ are u worth more then that” and when u look at ur relationship does she really make u happy or have u just been staying with her because she has your son as that is no good reason to stay.

In the long run it will do ur son nothing but harm as he will not understand any self worth and what a real relationship should be like....

Then again mayb if u happy with it have a “open “ relationship so u can both do what u want.. that way ur both b happy...

[LfhJoe91 in reply to Lulububs]

I struggle with low self esteem so finding my self worth is difficult. I convinced myself that staying as a family things would get better but it just helped her twist the relationship.

[Lulububs in reply to LfhJoe91]

Im sorry to tell u this but u stay in that relationship ur self esteem will get lower and lower but if u walk away u can walk away with some pride.

Plus it wont b doin anything for u anxiety or depression it will make it worse coz ur forever wandering what she is up to.. or questioning her.. she sounds manipulative enough to keep gaslighting u...

Im sorry but if u dont get rid when people cheat they will keep doin it coz u have let them do it once so they think “oh well he wont do anything” .

CHEATERS RARELY CHANGE THERE WAYS!!!

[LfhJoe91 in reply to Lulububs]

I've finally walked away from her I wish i never had to talk to her again but I dont get that luxury. Even after I left her she tried to pull me back with promises of change that arnt there exactly on the idea of maybe I can toy with him some more. It was very apparent that she doesnt take any fault when she blamed me for not giving enough attention instead of apologizing for the lies.

[Lulububs in reply to LfhJoe91]

OMG well done you, how strong are u.

It will hurt like a bitch at first but u will see the light and look back at all the 💩things she has done and told u and think “ why didn’t i leave before”!!

That u left now is good enough, u have done what so many people cannot do... ur son will respect u more. Mayb not at first but he will as he get older and he realises she was cheating and u had to walk away for ur own sanity and his....

There is nothing worse as a child then growing up with toxic parents , i did.....

It turned me the other way in that i wont put up with it round me, be it friends or boyfriends... ive always walked away as soon as things have got toxic which i think helps my self esteem and sanity.

NEVER DOUBT YOUR OWN SELF WORTH!!!!!

[Pri0606]

Hey sweetie.. i feel terrible someone could do this.. but u need to get up, n start things.. first collect proof that she s seeing.. n thn indirectly ask her, if she love s u.. if she lie s again, msg me.. wil think further.. but promise me ul not feel sorry for loosing such a liar.. love..pri..

[LfhJoe91 in reply to Pri0606]

Thank you its been a crazy rollercoaster ride. Im not one to pry into people but I had to make an exception I was able to find lots of proof but I believe she has a serious mental problem because she tries discredit the proof itself or give another back story. I had lots of feelings for her I wanted the best for her but looking back at the relationship it was me i feel sorry for.

[Pri0606 in reply to LfhJoe91]

Hey.. thn i guess ur better off witout her.. heal urself, spend time alone, keep ur heart open, b kind..n laugh.. celebrate d moment u came out of d clutches of such person.. world is ur oyster now.. take time n really really enjoy..love..pri.

[Pri0606 in reply to LfhJoe91]

N let me tell u, my husband cheats, n lies..i dont hav any proof he s so good at it..he a big flirt.. since i hav baby boy n i knw its a difficult world for single mother in india, im tolerating..