Hi just thought I needed to write to people who understand. I got through christmas and managed to sort things with regards to gifts etc.
I sort of went into automatic fiction fixing a smile on my face and pretending. Unfortunately it seems like that is wearing off and my mood and any motivation has gone. My anxiety is back with extra umphhh ! I even tried chamomile tea ! ( it smells like soil and wellington boots) Surprisingly it does calm me down ! I also tried calming rain sounds ( thanks Alexa)
My pain is under control ish so why is my mood so low. ? I feel like I am beginning to detach from my family. I fell empty and uninterested. Unfortunately my eldest boy has moved away so maybe it's that. Do we ever get over our children not needing us ? I thought as I got older with time wisdom would greet me with the answers to life's puzzles. Unfortunately I am just still looking for answers ... Looking for a time when I can laugh and mean it.
Unfortunately I just feel overwhelmed and sad. I know I am lucky enough to have children and a husband. But I don't feel it I just do not remember a time when I did not have other people to take care of. The thing is when you pour yourself into motherhood the trauma of your past is pushed down. The memory not as important as new ones your making with the life that you created.
Your entire being evolved around these people who came out of you. It enables you to hide within its borders. Without that your left with you. That in itself should be okay what happens when it isn't ? When your focus calls you back to what was pushed down is rising up?