Regrets

What do you do to really forgive yourself and stop regretting things that you already did? How to really accept the mistakes you did?

[Worriedman19]

Yeah that's something I think about each and every day of my life but you have to remember that's in your past look forward to what you have now and take it one day at a time remember that there are people out there just like you that are here for you. You have to learn to forgive yourself then you can start the healing process

[Hidden in reply to Worriedman19]

Thank you Worriedman19. Yeah I can't undo it. Just got to move forward.

[BlueSky125]

There is a concept in dbt therapy called distress tolerance that is designed for overwhelming feelings. Part of that is radical acceptance. Radical acceptance, as its name suggests, means exactly that: accepting everything about yourself, your current situation, and your life without question, blame, or pushback. Far from condoning or embracing what you are and what you are going through, radical acceptance advocates simply accepting yourself and your circumstances in order to better move through and past them.

Here are some coping statements to think about when applying radical acceptance

· “I can’t change what’s already happened.”

· “It’s a waste of time to fight about what’s already happened.”

· “The present is the only moment I have control over.”

· “The present moment is perfect, even if I don’t like what’s happening.”

· “This is the way it has to be.”

In addition to coping statements, you can also use a distraction plan to distract yourself from painful emotions. For example, you can enjoy pleasurable activities such as exercising, listening to music, going for a walk etc. You can even try paying attention to someone else; this will help you to take the attention off yourself.

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Thank you so much BlueSky125. Surely this will help.

[pink83737]

Usually I try and let go of everything, I use the app called headspace and it’s worked wonders for me. It might seem weird at first but it works. Just remember we all make mistakes and we’re human! it’s bound to happen. Stop living in the past, start focusing on the now.

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Yes, live for the future. Thanks for replying.