Relationship problems.. please give advice

[Genuinearies04]

So I recently just got out of a treatment center and this whole week I haven’t really been able to see my boyfriend (because of family). So today we went out to a basketball game (boyfriend and I) and it was really fun. We got back to the house and it started. He made comments (or “jokes” he calls them) that I’ve told him I didn’t like before. And In response I said some hurtful things back. I ended up leaving and before I left he punched the wall. I’m not sure how to handle this because my mind is still so fragile and I literally felt so bad because my family interfered and came and picked me up from his house. I don’t know what to say or if I should say anything.. before I left he was crying and even asked for my key back to the apartment... I’m so hurt idk what to do💔💔

[Billsfriend]

Your boyfriend needs help.

Consider that he provoked you for no apparent reason.

You struck out at him, which I think he knew you would.

Then he punches the wall, which can only be seen as an act of aggression and a warning to you. When your parents picked you up, I believe he realized he went to far, and cried to try to manipulate you into staying. When you didn't stay, he again struck out at you by saying he wanted his key back, which I believe he knew would hurt you.

I don't understand how your parents interfered by picking you up. You must have told them what was happening for them to come. They were protecting their precious daughter, fearing for your safety, as you did too. If you haven't already given his key back, mail it to him. If you think it's safe, tell him he needs to get professional help. If you are afraid to tell him, don't, but end the relationship and refuse any further contact.

You need to be safe, I think you can count on your parents for that.

You need some professional help too, not only to disengage from this abusive relationship, but to prevent getting involved with another abuser.

I hate to have to tell you this very difficult stuff, but I think you already know it. I think you are hoping that it will all go away, who can blame you, but it won't go away. It will get much worse.

There are a lot of people on here that know a lot more about relationships than I do, so think about what they have to say, what I said, and make a decision that is best for you. In doing so, you will be helping him too. If he ever hits you, he will really have something to cry about.

Please keep yourself safe, I am genuinely concerned for your safety.

[hypercat54 in reply to Billsfriend]

Completely agree with you. x