Having trouble communicating with Everyone!!!

[Optimistic_22]

Hi hope everyone is doing well today. I really need some advice. I never realized this was a problem until the last year. I would always get excited and talk over people . Mostly because I was worried I forget or anxiety . Also I realized I have only had few back and forth conversation and often ramble. Now since my therapist and boyfriend had pointed out I don’t have conversation back and forth and cut off. Also when I have conversation that are trying to solve a problem I take as Criticism instead of constructive criticism. Lastly when my boyfriend talks to me I feel as if I’m being scolded because we are trying to figure out parenting, my Anxiety etc. I definitely have control issues and don’t know how to calm down emotionally and let things go. Any suggestions on how to communicate better, not feel negative about constructive criticisms. I need a action plan my boyfriend is having a hard time with my anxiety and communication and ready to call quiets for his mental sanity. Any suggestions greatly appreciated.

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If what you are going through now disturbs or upsets him and he will leave if you don't "straighten out" then by all means, let him go. You can seek expensive help through psychiatrists and/or therapists, and if it would make you feel better (and you can afford it) then it wouldn't hurt to give a try. Just be careful, they also try to hook you into more sessions to pad their profit margin and prescribe you medication that makes you a zombie or comfortably numb, all the time, while you're gaining a lot of weight due to the meds they give you; like you really need that as another issue when you look in the mirror. Mental illness, like prison reform, is a joke to the system, the government, whoever controls the money flow.

Like you, I also get nervous and talk a lot more around people I know and am comfortable with as a nervous habit. I hate it when I do that even knowing while I am doing it. And criticism, if handled properly, I can take a little. However due to my condition (sociopath) I do not like criticism and take it personally. Seeking to blame others or shift attention away, that's me. I am sorry that you are going through such a rough time and cannot say it will get better "if you just try" b.s. Personally I am very good friends with Xanax, don't leave home without it hell, I just don't leave home. A short-term conversation at the store or so I can handle alright but I do not like to be trapped or confined in a small space. When my wife was here sometimes she would stand at the bathroom door if I were shaving or something similar. I would always leave the room; when asked why I told her I did not like to feel trapped, and her blocking the door had my attention badly. She did not understand of course. Talk about taking over a conversation I just looked back. Sorry, take what you like and delete the rest.

[Optimistic_22 in reply to Hidden]

I appreciate you taking your time and advice. I have therapist and she’s helpful but I still have more work to do. Just looking for communication skills and different perspectives . As for prescriptions meds there not for me. To many side effects. But may work for some. Good luck to you also.

[Hidden in reply to Optimistic_22]

Yeah I gotcha. My late brother didn't care for the Xanax I offered him during his low points with Crohn's disease. To each their own, I only offer my personal advice which is of course quite different from the norm on most levels, lol. It's just me having a bit o' fun with my people. And I consider you to be a friend if you don't mind. Perhaps I may make you laugh. That is my goal (under all) is to make someone at least smile if not outright laugh. And I often do so at my own expense. To me, like Larry the Cable Guy said, "Now that's funny right there I don't care who you are." Yeah I like those guys, they make me laugh cause I am from the south and a lot of what they say or said they've done I know people who that story would fit perfectly. And they're true and honest. That is what I look for in any dealings with people. How true and honest are they. You fit. Member "BuyXanaxOnline" is not. They offer oxy's online, yeah right. Scam. They still owe me for...gotta go...