MDD and GAD crippling me as a father, husband and provider (on verge of loosing my marriage), afraid how to fill the hours in a day. Can't see myself being able to help my 2 daughter's through lifes challenges. I have done so many things this past year to try and come back these issues but I struggle hourly and can't see how anybody can maintain this mental anguish and fear.
I know we all want a magic pill to help us but I have tried several medications as well as TMS and haven't found peace yet. I did actually feel 6 days like my old self towards the end of my TMs.... But then it went away.
My spouse has said she is done with me and can't do this any longer. I don't see how I can make it financially emotionally or physically.
I would love to hear a success story of someone that had extreme MDD can extreme anxiety from when your eyes open till night time.
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I have severe anxiety that oddly enough lasts for three days and nights. I'm on Abilify and Klonopin. The Abilify has cut the 3 days into 1 and 1/2 days. I was recently put on Vistaril which finally lets me sleep at night during those times. I used to be awake and suffering the entire time. However, even with the Vistaril, when I wake up, the anxiety is still there. Thank God it's eased some. My husband had little understanding of this. He used to become angry when I got sick. Instead of reaching out for the emotional support I needed, I just started not reaching out to him hardly during these times and tried to rely on myself and God. I focused a lot on His ability to create the earth. It's easier, then, to realize He can handle my anxiety. Sometimes my anxiety is so strong I can barely think coherent thoughts and can't concentrate on God's abilities, though. I have had to build up a lot of self-coping mechanisms dealing with each symptom of my anxiety. It has helped some. I think your experience will only be a help in helping your daughters deal with life's challenges. And at times, because my children are adults, I talk to them about things that worry me and they can see things objectively for me. Helps me put things into perspective and my anxiety decreases or stops. Your daughters will know you are there for them. Are you going to therapy? It appears you will need to reach out for help elsewhere other than your wife. If she doesn't have to deal with the illness, your relationship may improve. It shouldn't have to be that way. But sometimes spouses don't deal with it well. I'm sorry things are rough right now and hope they improve for you. I have faith in you that you can pull through this.
I am the person you're looking for. I can pm you and tell you whatever you want to know. I've been very sick and very successful and am doing very well today.
I’m an angry ptsd’er. I have c-ptsd. I don’t have much anxiety anymore but I still have clinical depression and flashbacks. It’s scary for spouses and hard because we don’t realize how often we change; so I was told.
Cognitive Behavior Therapy and DBT saved my life. You can do them at home with workbooks and docs on YouTube.
My family appreciated it. Take care of yourself.
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I wish I knew too. I think you’re tired as heck. It’s really hard to get through. I hope your wife sticks it out. She’s trying it seems. It’s not your fault. It’s not. I break my day into goals for the day. I break my thoughts into love. When I get scared I think of the people who aren’t stressing me out who I love and know they love me unconditional. Even those who are here now but may leave later.
I wrote mantras made for me a tool box of sort I read though memorized I read them several times a day to change GE habits. What can I do I deserve kindness. I can let go moments come and go I can choose to think of better moments with examples ..
I try to be productive even if it’s at 20% of what I was it’s still progress. I had things under control before then I went through much more and loss and physical stuff financial it’s stressful. I don’t know how it will turn out. But I can only try now and be ok with what is for sure how I feel about people I love that I matter that one day it will change. It did before. Try not to look back make sense of it. What good does it do now. It’s only about how you feel about getting up and accept differences that’s hard but life can do this to people. We have to make the best of it. Concentration on good things the bad doesn’t serve you
Thank you, I agree, and work hard at breaking my day into sections so as not to be overwhelmed with an open blank day or a overly packed day. I'm also trying hourly to just accept the pain and phsyiological issues, the anxiety is lies, that cause fear, fear causes more chemicals to be released only inflaming our over senzitaized nerves that are trying to heal and the cycle continues, and I belive leads to the depression and inability to function, starting the cycle over again. Def agree on forgetting about the past and how " I used to be".....everytime I do that (which is many times a day) I can't move fwd and only feel worse. All of this is easy to say of course, its putting it into practice thats the challenge.....but other have recovered and managed so we can too
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