I’m lost

[_noname_]

I’m feeling pretty lost with my relationship right now. I feel like all the issues we keep having (financial, emotional, etc) can be easily avoided but my significant other keeps repeating the same mistakes. I’m at a point where I don’t know what else to do. Clearly communication is not working, they are incredibly stubborn and keep saying they will change and make better decisions but it’s already been over a year that we’ve been dealing with these problems. I don’t know what else to do..

[Hidden]

Sometimes it will take the actual thought of losing you to change. I know that's what it has taken for me to make huge changes in my life. I'm trying to better myself first which is what my wife has told me I need to do before we can fix the issues in our marriage. Keep your chin up and try to keep taking it one day at a time. Marriage is hard but in the end I feel like it's worth all the hard work!! Hope this helps alittle bit. Good luck!

[_noname_ in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your advice. I feel that I have mentioned the thought of separating for a while (a break) but it seems like they wouldn’t mind if we were to separate... I feel as though maybe I’m just holding on to something I love but they might not feel the same anymore

[Hidden in reply to _noname_]

I'm sorry. I hope that things work out for you however ends up being the best for you. Life is hard and sometimes it feels like we just keep getting kicked when we are down. But if you try to stay positive for yourself and are happy with yourself maybe things will get better. Take care of yourself first no one else will for sure.

[SheWrote]

If communication is so difficult, maybe a counselor could help. Have you tried that route yet? One thing I have learned, is that sometimes you have go. through really hard times and choose to love your partner whatever that looks like, even if it doesn't make sense. At the same time, make sure you are not putting all of it on your shoulders. Step back and try to gain a new perspective, and treat yourself to some you time and try to relax. You are not alone, and whatever happens, you will be okay... sending prayers and hugs your way!!!