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IS ANYONE PAYING ATTENTION ?

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In the last month, on this forum, I have seen a photo of a persons stool in their toilet , a photo of a used sanitary pad, an erection , a description of vaginal discharge. When I reported the floater I was accused of being a cyber bully and the administrator agreed . I find all of this a reality I don't want in my face every day. Am I past it , over reacting . tell me. I don't mind the hot mess of our minds and emotions, but I draw the line at physical hot messes. What say you ? Pam

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I agree with you some of the things I read & see on here...way too much information that I don't care to know about , who does that? I know not me, ha!

I guess we must ignore and don't play any music on here because that's very offensive, we got reported for doing so, I believe music is good for the mind , body and spirit....

Here's sparkles for you , much more fun, run with them and play!

Dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy and hugs!

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14 in reply to

Agree on the music

in reply toDolphin14

Thank you very much Dolphin...we still are trying to see if we can get the music back, we aren't giving up!

Happy Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours... May it be a sparkling one!

Dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy and hugs!

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14 in reply to

Happy Thanksgiving to you. Enjoy a peaceful day with your family.

Music is therapeutic, it would be nice to have it back :)

NeuronerdDoaty profile image
NeuronerdDoaty in reply to

I want the music

in reply toNeuronerdDoaty

I know so do we...been trying to work on it to no avail...but we won't stop trying..why? Because winners never quit...

May your day sparkle!

Dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy and hugs Neuronerd!

Sillysausage234 profile image
Sillysausage234 in reply toDolphin14

Can’t agree more...and happy thanksgiving 🐬

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14 in reply toSillysausage234

Thank you 🦃

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Jamie2018

I havent noticed any of those pics youved described but i sure as hell noticed one mentally hot mess on this forum! If ya know what u mean? Lol

Jamie2018 profile image
Jamie2018

If ya know what i mean?

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sweetiepye in reply toJamie2018

Do I ever lol

Jamie2018 profile image
Jamie2018

What husband?

You dont have a husband just a supossedly wicked mother and brother that keep you prisoner in your own house.

You claim you are 39 and a nurse but you cant escape.

I dont get it.

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Sillysausage234

Hello rocky ..we have a great forum here as you know and I’m sure all’s people are saying is to just tone it down a notch the people you are talking about are valuable members here that make for a safe place for us all ...hope you have a peaceful day best wishes

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14

I saw most of those pictures you mention.

I agree they didn't belong here.

Are you saying reporting isn't anonymous?

sweetiepye profile image
sweetiepye in reply toDolphin14

I also replied to the poster and said I found his photo offensive and then he became irate and an administrator responded to the post and agreed that I was a cyber bully. Everyone knows what a bully I am lol

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14 in reply tosweetiepye

Omg! A bully for not wanting to see a bowel movement. Lmao!

I don't even want to see them at work never mind here hahaha.

Sillysausage234 profile image
Sillysausage234 in reply toDolphin14

Would’ve made an interesting picture puzzle 🧩

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14 in reply toSillysausage234

Lol Lol

It was very clear what that one was.

You would have won the guess first shot lol

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sweetiepye in reply toSillysausage234

Oh you! You always make me laugh.

in reply tosweetiepye

You a bully???? Then what does that make him???

They got that one way wrong my dear!

Sparkles and dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy and hugs for you!

fauxartist profile image
fauxartist in reply tosweetiepye

Blow it off, ignore the posts ....

NeuronerdDoaty profile image
NeuronerdDoaty in reply tosweetiepye

Oh my YOU a cyber bully?😆. You a bully of any kind? I feel like I need to protect most of you sweet people. I’m so mean I have to tone it down before I write sometimes.

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Mrspjsmom

I say scroll, scroll, scroll! I have managed to miss those photos and couldn't be happier.

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sweetiepye in reply toMrspjsmom

The thing is you don't know what it is until you expand the post, then it takes a few seconds to register what you are seeing. and then you wonder why saying shit is always censored but posting a picture of it is acceptable .

Mrspjsmom profile image
Mrspjsmom in reply tosweetiepye

I agree completely. There are some photos that simply aren't appropriate on any forum.

fauxartist profile image
fauxartist in reply tosweetiepye

That’s funny.....you can look at a discussing pic, which is inappropriate but can't say the word....I totally see the irony....

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hypercat54

Well I have tried to say things to the poster before coz I would rather let them know it's unacceptable and give them a chance to rethink it to save them from possible repercussions, but have been attacked too often. So now I don't say anything and just report instead. This always seems a bit sneaky but needs must.

As for the erections a mental health site will always attract a certain number of pervs, especially when posts aren't locked and can end up in full anywhere on the net x

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sweetiepye in reply tohypercat54

Point taken

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hypercat54 in reply tosweetiepye

I too have been told off by admin Pam when I have responded so now don't x

Gjkas profile image
Gjkas

I totally agree with you..I don't think you're overreacting at all.

Who wants to see all that filthy stuff on here. Certainly not me..im glad you reported it.👍

I would have done the same if I had seen it. Mind you, i might have seen it but it didn't register. Fibro Fog happens to me a lot. Ask my Husband, helll tell you.

HAHAHA

Happy Holidays sweetiepye. X

sweetiepye profile image
sweetiepye in reply toGjkas

Oh , I know brain fog. lol

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Gjkas in reply tosweetiepye

I was just thinking about you being called a Cyber bully for reporting something that shouldn't have been on here in the 1st place.

Well I'm not very good on the internet and I didn't know that using Capital Letters were classed as Shouting and being Abusive etc. .

I used to be on the Fibromyalgia Forum. But one of the Administrators on there called Desquinn stopped me going on there for a while.

Because he said that i was shouting etc .I didn't know what he meant, until he told me about using Capital Letters.

I wanted to thank people on there because they gave me a lot of good advice, But he said that I was too gushing.

Then he said that I was swearing too much. I admit that I did use the word hell. Because when I describe my Fibromyalgia pain.

I call it the DEVILS DISEASE because it hurts like hell. I have used that word a few times, yes.

In the end i told him to take me off the Forum altogether because I felt as if he was picking on me.

There were other things he kept going on about, so it just wasn't worth the hassle. It's a shame because I had some good friends that helped and gave me some advice on there. I even asked him if he could thank them for me. But he said NO. Because it would be like going into a Pub and shouting it out. ??? I don't understand what he meant.

I was picked up on them few things, and yet obscenities like the ones you have seen have been allowed through.?

The Mind Boggles.

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desquinn in reply toGjkas

Hi Gjkas - The issue had nothing to do with capital letters but you did not appreciate that they are seen as shouting especially when the message is argumentative.

It was the way you reacted to an admin on that forum making comment. Your response was abusive to an admin and an opportunity to calm down, realise what had went wrong and see if there was a way back. The points you have made above I have explained.

Each forum and admin team have their own rules and they are normally sent to users when they join a forum. That team of volunteers try their best to support the forum and when posts are reported they act on them and try and deal with it in a sensitive way.

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Gjkas in reply todesquinn

No Desquinn,

I'm not very good on the internet and I didn't know that Capital Letters were classed as shouting or being abusive. Why are you saying that the issue had nothing to do with Capital Letters and yet you are still going on about me using them ???.

I already told you that I didn't know that they were classed as being shouting or abusive.

You were going on to me about swearing because I used the word hell. But on some of the other Forums they use the F word etc.. A word i never ever use anyway.

I know now that each Forum has their own set of rules. I thought that you were on the Fibromyalgia Forum.

So how come you are going on about something that l said on a different Forum ???.

I am not being argumentative or abusive to you in any way.

I am not a person like that. I also appreciate that the team of Volunteers do a real good job of supporting each Forum. I have calmed down, but why are you bringing it all up again..

I thought we had sorted it all out.

You wanted me off the Fibromyalgia Forum. So I asked you to take me off the Forum altogether, even though it was helpful to me.You agreed.

I don't understand why you are bringing it all up again. .

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desquinn in reply toGjkas

reason for mentioning it is that you used my name and mentioned something on our forum incorrectly and this was brought to my attention.

Capitals were highlighted to you before the latest incident but you chose to abuse an admin and comment on their decision on the forum. With some light swearing thrown in a restriction was required. You did not appreciate you were in the wrong at all.

Cannot speak for the rules on other forums and swearing. our form has had a lot of issues with trolls and searing so there is very little tolerance as a result. I am not offended by swearing but our rules are for everyone.

If you had moved on then there should be no need to mention the forum, myself or that you still disagree with the decision.

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Gjkas in reply todesquinn

I have moved on Desquin .But tell me what did i mention incorrectly .I did mention your name, yes..But how did I abuse you ???.I don't recognise the word hell as swearing, not when I was just trying to explain how bad my pain hurts. .

You have Fibromyalgia i think,??? So you should know how much the pain hurts .It hurts like hell.!!!!!!

Are you insinuating that I am a Troll,because i don't even know what that is.

You just said yourself that you cannot speak for the rules on the other Forums .But I am with the other Forums so why are you going on at me again. And No, i don't recognise myself as being in the wrong. .

You said that you're not offended by swearing. Well I am. I don't like swearing. I don't swear myself. This is what I am trying to explain to you.

Like i said, I have moved on. But I still disagree with you whether you are Admin or not.

You're not even with the Anxiety and Depression Forum .So why start on me again.???. .

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desquinn in reply toGjkas

I only responded on here because you referenced the situation on our forum and me by name. I have explained (mainly so others are aware of the other side) that you were in the wrong on our forum, and went into it in detail by pm and briefly here. If you have moved on why do you referenced here and on other forums.

Anyway I think I shall move on.

Sillysausage234 profile image
Sillysausage234 in reply todesquinn

👨🏻‍⚖️......no arguing on our forum please

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Gjkas in reply toSillysausage234

Ooh thankyou, I'm fed up of arguing with him..That was the reason why I left the Fibromyalgia Forum, even though I have Fibromyalgia..

I know he's an Administrator and I dont want to argue with him...

But he won't let things go..x

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Sillysausage234 in reply toGjkas

Volunteer busy body more like 😊....should report him to 🤔.....admin for being a stalking CYBER BULLY .

sweetiepye profile image
sweetiepye in reply toSillysausage234

Irony perhaps ?

Sillysausage234 profile image
Sillysausage234 in reply tosweetiepye

... shameful behaviour I might even phone the police

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sweetiepye in reply toSillysausage234

You've had coffee , right.

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Sillysausage234 in reply tosweetiepye

😊no coffee don’t like to see 75 year old ladies getting harrsassed ...love the way you light the blue touch paper and stand back

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sweetiepye in reply toSillysausage234

Not everyone notices that.

I do think there was harassment there. Admin. seem to get away with it..

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Gjkas in reply todesquinn

Desquinn i think that everyone is aware of what has been going on. And I still don't understand what you mean by me being in the wrong ???.

The irony is that you are keeping on about ???. nothing really...

Im glad you decided to move on.

Because as ive already told you

I have already moved on..

Hope you have a nice Christmas and all the Best for the NEW YEAR.

OOPS i done it again, i used Capital Letters. But I am not arguing, or threatening. I am just wishing you all the best.

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fauxartist

wow... I missed all of this...and I'm sure your not the only one who found that offensive. There are other groups on her...mens dysfuntions, womens issues etc. that those topics would be more appropriate.

Jeff1943 profile image
Jeff1943

To report inappropriate photos and words is clearly not cyber bullying and I don't understand why Admin reprimanded you. You did right, Pam.

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kenster1

yeah I seen them all it was an alleged erection mind you haha.

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sweetiepye in reply tokenster1

Are you sure?lol

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kenster1 in reply tosweetiepye

yeah I saw it it could have been a belt to tight hand in pockets but who knows apart from the guy who it was.maybe he never had enough room in his bag for the carrot.

sweetiepye profile image
sweetiepye in reply tokenster1

LMAO

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14 in reply tosweetiepye

I'm cracking up lol

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14 in reply tokenster1

Hysterical

Dolphin14 profile image
Dolphin14 in reply tokenster1

Hahaha Kenster:)

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sweetiepye in reply toDolphin14

Don't you just love him ?

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Dolphin14 in reply tosweetiepye

Yes lol

That's awesome, " alleged"

Lmao...🤣🤣🤣 this is funny....

Honestly I agree with you although some might find their situation hard to describe wich leads them to post the actual photo 🤣🤣... man I dont think I can post these types of things with no shame...I mean even though we dont personally all know eachother I think everytime I post they would be like oh no it's the shitty guy again or the erectionist lmao...idk I have to agree with you but no offense to those who are just seeking advice...bless your heart

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sweetiepye in reply to

Taking the subject seriously, I feel there is a place for that kind of information and people have a right to it. This is a forum for depression and anxiety so it seems to me they would get better answers else where. If I know we are going to keep those subjects as part of our discussions , then I won't open them. Especially if I'm having breakfast as I was on two occasions.. It turned out to be a very entertaining post though.

in reply tosweetiepye

I agree...

NeuronerdDoaty profile image
NeuronerdDoaty

Shoot I missed all that! I’m not on here enough. I’m that kind of person with a double bladed tongue and I so enjoy a good riff at people. That stuff has nothing to do with mental illness. Perhaps more people should be given the ability to zap a picture?

And then my grown up kicks in and I say nothing and boringly move on.

Sometimes......

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Sillysausage234 in reply toNeuronerdDoaty

✊.....diplomacy

NeuronerdDoaty profile image
NeuronerdDoaty in reply toSillysausage234

Lol! Or lmao depending on how much I’ve already put up with today.

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sweetiepye in reply toNeuronerdDoaty

I promise you there will be a next time.

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