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[ceelovestea]

Hi guys,

Wow the last time I was on here was 2 years ago when my ex boyfriend cheated on me. I am now married to a wonderful man and I’m SO happy that everyone was so supportive. I found the strength to move on and now I have a great guy in my life forever.

I have to ask some advice: how does one communicate your depression and anxiety to me your significant other? My husband knows I struggle with depression and anxiety. He has dealt with depression in the past but of course, he handled it differently. I’m curious to see how you guys fight your battle while helping your significant other understand. Thank you ☺️

[kenster1]

hi the best way is always to be open and honest specially if both of you have suffered both of you will have learned different coping mechanisms over the years and that's good to have.

[ceelovestea in reply to kenster1]

Thank you kenster1! I believe he doesn’t realize that we will never have that same experience so he just needs to accept how I deal with it.

[Hidden]

I am so pleased to hear you are in a better place right now. I always think a partner would benefit from looking up depression in order to understand it better. It can be a lot easier then trying to find the right words to explain it.

[Arniestal in reply to Hidden]

Yes you are right. The first thing they could do is look it up get some information. My husband just says he can do nothing to help me.

[Hidden in reply to Arniestal]

I do not think it is quite true that your husband cannot do anything to help. By reading about depression he will be able to understand you more. I think there are books you can buy for partners of people with depression too.

[Arniestal in reply to Hidden]

Yes but he wouldn't do that. It's always been me doing the looking after. He won't help himself at all, certainly won't look anything up to help me.

[Hidden in reply to Arniestal]

I am sorry, Arniestal.

[ceelovestea in reply to Arniestal]

Hi Arniestal, I’m sorry to hear that. I feel like some people act differently when they hear about our mental obstacles we’re trying to face. My husband is actually the first man I’ve been with who doesn’t care that I’m dealing with it. I just want a better way to communicate how I feel.

[ceelovestea in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Autumnday! Yes of course but he went through the same thing and it was different for him. So when I explain to him it’s hard for him to understand I guess that’s what I’m trying to say. I don’t want us to argue about how I deal with things differently. I need to find a nice way to say all that.