My mom gives me anxiety :(

[blacchyna]

Hey friends

I’m so miserable I’m back home for uni break and my mother is being such a pain.

She keeps focusing on my negative traits such as me not being able to cook all meals and constantly remains me I cant drive even though she says she won’t take lessons due to me damaging her clutch I do this cause she wants me to be perfect in everything and when I drive around her and I have to balance the car at stops I start panicking I even used to shake due to my fear of being the bad driver after lessons I just am so tired

she basically forced me to come back from uni even though I didn’t really want to.

[NWGal]

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[blacchyna in reply to NWGal]

Thank you will do💕

[hypercat54]

Your mother is worried about your ability to take proper care of yourself when you are away from home that's all. Like all good mothers she wants to feel like she has taught you all the skills you need. I would talk to her calmly and tell her that you are fine and are eating healthily (even if you aren't). Tell her you will take driving lessons when you can afford it but have enough to concentrate on at the moment. I guess that's the reason she wanted you home. It might also be that she misses you?

She's not really treating you as an adult but it can be difficult to accept your child has grown up and must find their own way in life one day. You be the adult and keep reassuring her that you are fine, but maybe find something minor she could help you with, such as shopping for new clothes. This will make her feel like she is still important and included in her life. Good luck. x