Blacksheep

[ThatOneGirl478084]

My whole life ive felt like i didnt belong and that my family and friends didnt like me. Today me and my mom got in a fight and she told me that my whole family thinks im a f****** weirdo and that no one likes me. Im really struggling. Obviously she could be lying, but it fits more with the feelings ive had my whole life

[hockeylover91]

I believe in you and know you can work through this. Your biological family doesn't need to be your family. Family can be anyone you surround yourself with that you love.

[Amz1987]

Your mum doesn’t sound like a very nice person.

It’s good to be weird though, don’t need to fit the mould to be an awesome person

[LilyAnnepuppy]

When I was 16, my mother told me that if I wasn’t her daughter, she wouldn’t have anything to do with me. It was no surprise, since she never was emotionally there for me anyway. So the feeling was mutual. It proved that saying that you can pick your friends but not family.

Our relationship got better over the many years before she died, but I understand feeling like an outsider. It wasn’t until I got to know and love myself that I could surround myself with loving accepting people.

It’s your opinion of yourself that matters. Choose actions daily which make you content with yourself.

[hypercat54 in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Omg my mother said exactly the same thing to me. She said she loved me but didn't like me and we would never have been friends if we weren't connected by blood. x

[LilyAnnepuppy in reply to hypercat54]

On some level, however, I agreed with her. I didn’t like myself much then either 😱

[hypercat54 in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Well i didn't like her any more than she liked me! It was her loss not mine. x

[hypercat54]

A lot of words can be said in anger but this certainly isn't very nice. Also she can't speak for the rest of your family can she? Remember she is only 1 person. x

[fauxartist]

For a mother to tell her child something like that is irreprehensible....I had been my mother’s dirty little secret and she made sure I felt every bit of her shame and blame and anger...You do not deserve this.....and you should talk to someone outside of your family situation because it's toxic. If your old enough.....seek counseling....and if not,.. try talking to a school councilor.

We can act out in anger and frustration when we know we are being targeted in the family.....but no matter what ....you never deserve to be talked to like that....please know that some parents just don't have it in them to be the caregiver they should be, my mother was and is a sociopath....no empathy, no love, no ability to own up to their own actions..... None of that was my fault, and the day I realized I was never going to get the love from her, I walked away....and I never looked back. Not all situations have to be so drastic, many find ways to mend their fences, others find ways of limiting their time with a toxic family member. But no matter what, we do not deserve to be verbally abused.

Sometimes we have to find our own love for ourselves...and find people in our lives that love and respect us for who we are, unconditionally....all people are a work in progress my friend....please learn your okay, and you deserve better.