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Hi all.....it's been a while

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Hey everyone! Brian here! To those new members whom I haven't met yet, my name is Brian and I struggle with many things stemming from depression.

HI ALL!

Well, I've been gone for much of this year, and a lot of members who are friendly with me have been wondering....where did he go? Well, I'm here to fill you guys in on what's been happening, as well as why I've been absent for so long.

First things first. This only applies to a few out there, but this is important and everyone needs to listen. Now, is everyone sitting comfortably? OK, let's begin..

Why have I been gone for so long?

Well, a while back there was a lot of drama on this website and the environment here got very toxic very quickly. And I have found that I have less and less tolerance of the causes of that with each passing day. I can't stand stupid people.

But Brian, what is your definition of a stupid person?

Good question! These are the things that I consider the qualities that make up stupid people in general:

- People who are selfish, self-obsessed, self-absorbed, who think the cosmos revolves around them and the people who agree with them.

Sorry, N-O

- People who need to have drama or scandal in their lives 24/7

Sorry, N-O (although drama dealing with a mental illness is an exception)

- People who feel the need to constantly belittle other people and harass and make fun of others

If you're that type of person, you need to just leave now.

- People who, in general, make just daily living miserable, unbearable, etc.

Seriously, you folks need to find a new hobby.

That is my definition of what constitutes a stupid person. And my tolerance of people like that is diminishing daily.

As legendary wrestling personality Jim Cornette puts it:

"If you don't want people to think you're stupid, don't do stupid stuff!" (I sanitized that last word so as to not get in trouble lol)

This is a community where people come together, share their problems, get some comfort and emotional support and hopefully this place makes life a little easier to handle. But when people stir up trouble, or go out of their way to make trouble, then this site becomes useless. It would be easier talking to a brick wall. Believe me, I've tried!

So, I decided to take a break. That was back in February. We're now skating into September. In the intervening period, I've done a lot of self-reflection. I'll admit to having my fair share of screw-ups. Hey, no one's perfect, and I'm the poster boy for imperfection! But, and this is something that drives me nuts about people today, is that no one takes responsibility for their actions.

Well, this is me, owning my mistakes. Yes, I screw up. Sometimes, quite frequently. But I'm willing to admit to it, and if I offend someone, I try to make amends.

I've recently starting back to college, hoping to go after an Information Technology degree somewhere down the road. It also puts me in contact with some who are just out of high school. First off, if you were popular in high school and you just recently graduated, well, it's over, deal with it. You're in the big leagues now, bucko! lol But, and listen because this is important, it's ok to talk to us who've been around longer. Who knows? We may actually impart some wisdom that'll help you out in the long run! Oh, and for future reference, get off your damn smartphones already! This is real life! Go out and smell the roses! Enjoy those sunny days! They happen less and less as we get close to the holidays.....Man, are we already past Labor Day? YIKES! lol

For those who really are struggling and need a pick-me-up, well, this is for you!

Things do get better! It may not seem like it now, but they do! You may need to put a little work and effort into getting there, but you can! Even if other people or the voices in your head say otherwise, I'm here to say that's all BS! There are only 2 things in life that are irreparable:

1. The government is gonna fleece you until you shuffle off this mortal coil and:

2. No one's getting off this ride alive.

So why not enjoy the ride while you're here? Hey, there are a lot of nice people out there, and this place happens to be one of those places!

If you're someone who needs someone to talk to, or to vent to and you really want to get back in the game that is life, then I'm always here for ya! If you want to forge a loving, caring community (even though the rest of the world seems to be going down the rabbit hole), then I'll stand by your side and prop you up when things are going rough.

But if all you want to do is cry "Woe is me", or you need all the attention to be on you, or you go out of your way to make my life or anyone else's life miserable, then you need to hit the bricks...…..like RIGHT NOW!

Cancer has taught me one valuable lesson.....Life is short. The Clock is ticking, and you don't exactly have as much time as you think you do. Why waste it doing stupid things? Or just acting stupid in general?

We're all part of one community. Doesn't matter the nationality, the race, the religious belief, the sexuality. None of that matters. We are one community, and we share something in common. We have been touched by mental illness in some fashion. Will you let it define you? Or will you define who you really are and what kind of person you can be? Labels are for Tupperware bowls (WOW, that's an old reference. Do they even still make Tupperware? lol) Don't let anyone or anything label you. You are YOU! You are valuable....to all of us!

"We're stronger with you than without you" - Captain Kirk, Star Trek Original Series episode "The Doomsday Machine"

Unless you're a stupid person. Then, well, you need help.

Ok, it's time for me get some chow. If I've offended anyone, sorry but some things needed to be said. I don't apologize for being right, even though that is rarely the case lol. To those that have known me for a while, I hope you all are doing well and those that have sent me PMs, I promise to get to them either tonight or tomorrow (Sept. 6). To those I haven't met yet, welcome to the maelstrom! lol Don't be bashful, there really are some nice and caring people here. I'm going to try to be a more active presence here and hey, if you ever need someone to talk to, then I'm you're huckleberry ;) (Let's see how many get that reference lol)

HAVE YOU GUYS MISSED ME YET?? lol

Your pal,

Brian :)

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Starrlight

❤️

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Starrlight in reply to Starrlight

P.s. so good to see you back

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bridder01 in reply to Starrlight

Good to be back :)

Glad you came back. No drama lately, so all is clear.

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bridder01 in reply to

Good to hear Mel. :) Maybe I can cause some chaos ;) Just kidding lol

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Looking forward to it!

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Careful what you wish for ;)

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🤣🤣🤣🤣

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LilyAnnepuppy

I’m sorry I didn’t get to know you back when. I like where you’re coming from (and the people I like seem to have missed you). My name is Lynne and I’ve only been here a month. The struggle with depression and anxiety had me down for the analogical count, but I didn’t find this site until the meds and counseling had begun to kick in. Welcome back. I look forward to getting to know you. L.

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bridder01 in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

Nice to meet you Anne :) We're a low key, close knit group here so don't be afraid to jump right in :) I just try to help in my own way, and I'm a very good listener. If you'd like to share, I'm here to listen :)

Your pal,

Brian :)

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melbrown

🙋🏼‍♀️ Hi Brian. How was your fishing trip 🎣 Hope you are doing well... we've missed you.

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Sillysausage234 in reply to melbrown

🤔....yeah he promised us tuna Mel if I remember

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bridder01 in reply to Sillysausage234

Tuna? Who do you think I am, the Gorton's fisherman? lol

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melbrown in reply to bridder01

😅 but u promised... big party at Lisa's... Alan & I will bring our pups... Hope will bake something delicious. And the rest of the gang will come.💗

Yaaaaay you’re backkk!!!! 💕

Well the coast seems drama free recently so welcome back!!!

That was a great read ! Most importantly though.. what did you chow? 🤔

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bridder01 in reply to

Burgers and fries. Can't mess that up :) Had too much Coke though. Paid for it today though lol.

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Yummmmm!!!! Perfect

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