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I know it’s hard to keep going but...

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If you can’t do this day, do this moment. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ breath deeply through your nose hold and slowly release.

(((((((((((((((((((((Hug from Starrlight))))))))))))))))

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Agora1

Dearest Starrlight, I do this throughout the day to help keep me focused on a

calm and peaceful state. Thank you for sharing this moment with me. :) xx

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JEG325 in reply to Agora1

Hey, A1. Hope you are doing awesome! Sue says hi too!

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Agora1 in reply to JEG325

Hi guys! Wishing you both an amazing day :)

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JEG325 in reply to Agora1

Stormy here right now but, we hope you have a blessed day too!

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Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Blessings for all. ❤️

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Starrlight in reply to Agora1

❤️ ❤️ ❤️

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JEG325

Hey, my superfriend, just sent your advice onward to a chatline friend of mine. She was having a rough day at work after making a mistake. I told her to relax and breath just like you suggested. Thx for the help!

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JEG325

Hope you're having a good day, S. I'm not sleeping so I used the time to reach out and help some friends. As usual I'm with you in heart and spirit, brightest shining light in the sky!

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Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Thanks 🌟 I’m having a troubling day but it will change everything does...Except God I believe ...well at times I believe

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JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

Well, if nothing else, I believe in your ability to rise above all of these problems you're having. If I can help you in any particular way, let me know. I might fall back asleep though, not sure. I will pray for you while I lay here listening to the thunder and rain....

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Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Have a nice time listening to the nature... I love storms... it’s raining a bit here

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We have rain and storms here. where we live.the sea sometimes looks like thick spittle with a tinge of grey and green...but it is so beautiful.. have not been able to capture the colour perhaps next year I will be able to try.

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Magicdreamer

What a magnificent picture! The colours of silver and grey falling into dark with the reflection of light. It looks almost like a deep mist... A mystery... So beautiful. 💚

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Starrlight in reply to Magicdreamer

Yes mysterious ❤️

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melbrown

Thanks hun for the reminder.... really needed to hear that.💗

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Starrlight in reply to melbrown

Love ❤️ love ❤️ love ❤️

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Kkimm

Beautiful photo and great message.

Kim

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Hey Kkimm

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HopeWithSmile

Love it. Thank you so much. Let’s all take a deeeep breath together.

xx

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Starrlight in reply to HopeWithSmile

Yes ... thanks... now thinking of when the breathing doesn’t seem enough... I am praying because I am doing try so much and I feel it’s all beyond my control now...

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HopeWithSmile in reply to Starrlight

I used to think about this control much. But then I realized that it’s impossible to have everything under control. This is the kind of world we live in. As soon as I let go of it, everything became easier to cope with.

The only thing I repeat to myself is that no matter what life brings we need to stay true to ourselves.

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Starrlight in reply to HopeWithSmile

I’m messed up I don’t even know my true self right now.

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HopeWithSmile in reply to Starrlight

I would start with myself. I would stop and listen to myself: what makes me smile, what makes me happy. And I would start building from it, brick by brick. Piece by piece. I would make a pause, listen to myself again, and then continue.

If you ever need someone to talk to, I am will be here in PMs! You can do this!

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Starrlight in reply to HopeWithSmile

Right now I’m relieved that my kids are happy so good on me in having something to do with that. But I have also been grumpy and feel im falling apart inside no matter how well I do on the outside. My mind feels twisted and I wish I would wake up tomorrow.

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HopeWithSmile in reply to Starrlight

Focus on your kids, on their happiness. Feel this light inside of you because of these positive feelings seeing your kids happy.

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We know your true self.. we all have blips and dips with memories. I feel those who have passed on are happy, and would not wish you to grieve for ever, as that would negate your beliefs. Its great to know you had a happy day with kids.

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I don’t know me anymore... I’m so desperate right now, making myself sick and feeling like I’ve lost too much already and weak right now but still trying my best

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What you are coping with is the loss of your brother, and your intense feelings lead you to say things or be angry with those who are close to you. This is a crisis of belief and existence, but your mindset is out of control so you see negatives.

As for your beliefs, these may not seem to resonate with real land modern life. The age old themes of the lost soul ,damned, are scary, but comes from long held religious tenets, which can upset mental health. Have come to a conclusion that the Catholic doctrine has tried to bring the modern world into its realm with acceptance of gay behaviour. Personally though accepting different sexual identities I cannot see that in any of the four gospels which are the main theme of biblical social and marital behaviour, that gay relationships were respected or formed the backbone of the ancient Christian beliefs. I can only see a divergence from an established religion which is rebelling against formal and rigid interpretations of relationships and this charismatic leader who was trying to help the poor and the suffering, and give hope that life and decisions made, would be compassionate and human.

I can see you are stuck in limbo. your pastor has helped you, but you still are saying "where are my loved ones now.?"That is normal after a bereavement. Now you need help to see how you can release yourself from these overwhelming feelings of loss and separation. You need to put your husband and family first as they need you more in the here and now. Your therapist may help you try to put these other intrusive thoughts behind you as they are predominating in your mind. Hope you can gain support from your pastor, and from a psychologist who can see your problems and also your doctor to revise medication. I note that Kenster1 mentioned he was using mirtizpine and amytriptoline. He feels things so deeply, but seems to have been helped with the medication. You are a star and are helping many along your journey.

Can see a pair of hands holding yours. .what a surreal photo. Thank you for your inspiration.

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Hey Hawaii

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beautiful starlight..

Still cant get over that photo..have taken a few myself and when I set the contrast, and brightness up came crosses in the sacred river DEE. I have had some wonderful cloud photos with angels in the sky .and the other day went out to a do it yourself yard to find some stepping stones for a puddle and I looked up and saw the full bow of a rainbow. The colours were so strong. I tried to find my camera but by the time I had found it only one half of the rainbow was left to photo. In an instant the world had changed.. You are an artist and a writer .. keep going as somehow you are opening mystery pathways ..

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Keep looking for that mysterious beauty in nature. You’re good at spotting it. God paints a beautiful sky.

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Yep,,shame about me cataracts..

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Oh I’m sorry to hear that (((((hug))))))

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I did find an improvement when I cleaned the lenses ha! I am too young for the op and can manage with glasses until I'm 80. It would be sods law, I would pay for the ops, and would not get the benefit from them . That's life!

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You are so sweet. .can feel that virtual hug from here thousands of miles away..isn't it great you are here to help us in our frail moments.

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Booklover0219

This is awesome. Thank you.

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Starrlight in reply to Booklover0219

Good to hear from you Booklover ❤️

Wishing you a happy new year. Hope you enjoy a family celebration, with time to relax.

Toasting your health!

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Toasting to your health as well.

Great..so good to hear from you. .Had a bad night last night, as had some liqueur and some some low alcoholic drink which does not mix with a diuretic drug. I woke up with odd dreams, and had a bath at 6am after seeing family to celebrate. My thoughts were racing, and I realised the alcohol had upset my brain. Feel better now. Hope you are getting there too as you are a life line to many..

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Starrlight

Oh no are you okay now? I’m feeling terrible. Stayed up late slept late off track. Looking for light, looking for beauty, looking for hope to carry me. Wishing you well.

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You have those lovely photos. looking at them is relaxing. Have you tried breathing out saying ommmmhhhh as it can calm the nervous system. Listening to uplifting music or picking up some knitting can absorb you and take your mind off problems, Workjng out to music with gentle exercise helps too. Sometimes whilst watching tv I will literally do stretching exercises or move leg and feet from side to side in time with the music beat in an arm chair.

Guess you have racing brain with too much going on in your mind. That's how I was last night as I could not take a sleeping tablet as I had drunk some alcohol. Am sure your therapist and doctor will be able to help with a change of meds which will help the problems of stress kevels. Food such as protein and some carbohydrates can make you feel better and make you relax. Milk has an opioid which helps the digestion and can calm the mind. Drinking water can help flush out toxins and restore the body. Oxygen in the lungs will help breathing, Water is a source of oxygen as well as exercise. If things feel tense, then don't be afraid to say you have been feeling worn out and you are sorry if you have been a bit grumpy. you tried Pilates work out? The early edition of Pilates has ten minute work out using bending and stretching and dance movement. I feel really good after I've done the exercises and do them copying the dvd video. It is not a frenetic work out but based on isometric exercises which help to tone the body, I lost about an inch from doing these gentle exercises. I must get out my dvd to try and tone up. Thanks for reminding me to get up and do something ha! You have children and have so much to do.

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admirablesloth

i love this ❤️

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Starrlight in reply to admirablesloth

❤️

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Starrlight

Hawii,

Ooooooooooooommmmmmmmmmmmm thanks for the reminder! That’s great. I’ve been running and doing yoga and I hope to meditate a bit during yoga, switching it up. Tomorrow I plan on going hiking.

Yup my mind is an imaginative racing intrusive thinking thing.

Do you do Pilates? I’ve done it before but not recently, it’s good for toning as I recall.

Come over and we’ll exercise!

Hello Starlight. Happy New Year.

This i how I feel today. Gloom. But outside the window in my place, the sun is shining so brightly. I guess, God is telling me that no matter what happens or whatever I am going through now. He's still here with me.

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That’s beautiful. I feel like gloom too. Yet I decided I’d take my family hiking tomorrow to fight against that gloom. I will try to keep faith like you, believing God is with us still, it’s something that would be so comforting if only it was fully truly believed. I used to believe strongly. What helps you believe?

My faith in God. Stories of people who's lives had changed so much through their faith in Him. And He's the only solid thing in my life right now. Something that I can hold unto that will hold me steadfast. Though, I admit many times, I ask and question Him. Many times I felt like He never listens. But I just keep coming back to Him.

That's good to know. Have time with your family. Bonding time. Hiking and fresh air, good therapy. :)

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