IS IT ME???

[HelpMePlz86]

Ok so it seems that im not good enough to do anything.My gf constantly talks crazy to me.Like she couldnt find her smokes.She asked have i seen em i said nah and attempt to look for them while she just sits and complains and screams.Then say wtf are you doing i dont need your help with s*** Like she has me feeling real worthless

[Sillysausage234]

Take her out somewhere nice and buy her something like chocolates 🍫 or cup cakes 🧁

[HelpMePlz86 in reply to Sillysausage234]

Man bro that only works for so long until she finds somthing im not doing or did wrong

[Hidden]

I think you either have a big talk and demand her respect or leave. It will only get worse in time.

[4sure]

Tell her to watch her mouth and how she speaks to you. Don't accept her bad behavior towards you or she will not respect you. If she says something back to you in a nasty tone, just again, tell her as calmly as you can to watch what she says to you, that you are not her doormat. In other words, try not to give her the power to make you feel bad about yourself. Hopefully when she sees she can't get a reaction out of you she will stop. If she doesn't, well, you're being abused and the longer you take it the worse it will be for your self esteem.

[HelpMePlz86 in reply to 4sure]

See thats the thing when i respond and ask for respect she starts this weird crying and stuff like turns into a whole victim

[Hidden in reply to HelpMePlz86]

Manipulation 🤔

[sweetiepye]

She sounds like a passive/ aggressive type. You will never win so you may as well please yourself. Just because she yells doesn't mean you have to jump. Pam

[Amz1987]

Hmmm doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship. Nobody needs to speak to anyone like that it’s not nice and it’s not how you speak to someone you love. You shouldn’t have to tip toe around someone because of their outbursts.

[HelpMePlz86 in reply to Amz1987]

Your right...and i do alot of " tip toeing" just to avoid arguments..

[HelpMePlz86 in reply to HelpMePlz86]

But i end up in em any way

[AmNEm]

Maybe...Step back from the situation. Try and truly realize your own worth. No one can take this from you unless you permit it. It sounds like the fights are about what’s going on with her not really about you???

[Blush311]

That's a reaction of a smoker but don't just settle, always demand respect from any and everyone

[Magicdreamer]

Hello. Have you set boundaries for yourself? Have you both sat down to communicate how you feel (speaking from a first person perspective)... Have you told her your needs? Has she told you hers?

[B4andafter]

Previous respondents have said your girlfriend's behavior signifies an unhealthy relationship and I agree. If setting boundaries doesn't work, avoid her manipulation (crying, "don't leave me" etc) and leave the relationship. It's not going to get better and while being on your own may be very scary, doing so will provide opportunities for you to find a healthy relationship. Don't waste months/years trying to "fix" someone.

[Hidden]

She sounds like a toxic person put yourself first and leave her. If she loves you she will understand and maybe try to change while you take a break.

[Hidden]

I wish you all the best, you seem like a really nice person judging by the fact that you’re on here seeking help.

Maybe you deserve someone more grateful unless your GF is suffering from some underlying health issue as well and needs help herself.

But if it’s absolutely tough on you mentally, maybe you have to cut your losses and break free because at the end of the day you are the most important person in your life and your happiness and wellbeing matters most, in my opinion.

I hope you feel better soon.

Regards

[6ixtyon1]

Does she do this a lot? I don't like seeing people getting stepped on, when they are really trying to make someone comfortable in a relationship... Is there a possibility that she may be bipolar, or going through things with her own relatives? Is she the sort of person who never had a lot of respect/affection shown towards her growing up? If that's the case, be careful how you share your compassion and good will...some folks simply never learn how to appreciate those things...when people see politeness, compassion, helpfullness or patience as signs of weakness, LOOK OUT! That is a big, red warning flag...don't let them beat you over the head with it.

Know when to part company and keep some peace to yourself.

Otherwise, try to talk it out, together...if you get nothing but a brick wall, it may be time to go find someone more amenable...good luck and blessings to you!

[HelpMePlz86]

Thanks to all of you for your input.Its just hard for me.Its like im a stay at home father and taking care of children is work itself but when arguments happen.Im never good enough im bot helping and etc....but the house is owned by me all bills in my name like im lost