How do people get the confidence to fully seek help?

[spidersfrommars]

{Disclaimer} I've only posted on here two or three times, I'll try to keep it short and I'm sorry in advance if any of this comes across as triggering/insensitive, I'm just wondering if anyone can relate/help.

I was contemplating getting help from my doctors for sometime but never found the confidence to do so, until I realised that help isn't really something we actively seek - it's what we go to when there is quite literally no other plausible option. I made an appointment and cried to the nurse, and she said it sounded like GAD and referred me to a CBT external organisation.

I then spent weeks in a spiral of panic regarding the upcoming phone interview, where a request for a 1-1 appointment was made. It has been five months since then, and my name has been withdrawn from the waiting list because I was too anxious to open up to someone about my anxiety (I know - ironic right?), and therefore ignored the phone calls from them.

I'm moving away in September and will have to change doctors. I don't think I can go through all that again. Does anyone know any other ways to get good CBT that's not through a doctor's appointment?

Hope everyone is doing okay. Thank you

[terriltwin2]

I think it comes down to knowing that we need it and asking for it is a tough thing. People don't want to ask for help and admit they need it. All of us are like that to a point. But the thing you should remember is, we all have been where you are at, you are not alone and it takes courage to know, admit and reach out for help . I know you have the courage to do so. Don't feel shame because you have to reach out for help, so many of us have to do the same thing. Doctors are used to people asking for help so don't be shy or afraid to do it. That is why Doctors are in their profession. Look at it in a positive light and self compassion for yourself. Know that you deserve to have help because you are valued and you are worthy.

[kenster1]

the pros and the cons the pros you get help support a listening ear great advice to implicate in your daily life hopefully set on a brighter path for many years.the cons you have none of the above and your problems just grow and grow and become harder to deal with.i understand it is hard that first important step can be very daunting but once you overcome that your time with the therapist becomes more relaxing and manageable.whatever the town/city you are moving to look up mental health support groups but you should still register with a doctor as well.

[Stilltrying_]

Have you thought of online counselling? There is one called "Hello Self" in the UK and another called "Better help" in the US from which I have heard good reports. You have to pay ( around £45 for initial assessment and then pay per session) but it may be an option if you don't want to do face to face or on the phone.

[hypercat54]

I presume you are in the UK? In many areas now you can self refer yourself for counselling on the NHS. Check to see if your area does it. x

[marheart]

I've never heard of anyone going into Therapy with cheers and joy. It's a necessity!

If I ruled the world, I'd arrange for school aged children to have therapy at various life stages. Then continue life change markers as time for routine, life savings therapy.

We go to the Dentist regularly (well, almost) and to MD for a check up etc. Why not a mental health check up.

Let's get it out in the open so the brain will become an accepted and treatable part of the body. I've been struggling with increasing symptoms and put off asking for more help. I felt ashamed every time the Therapists told me I'm not following their Mindfulness program and they don't know what to do with me.

Obstacles are huge boulders on the path, that's for sure.

[Chancalot]

No, I know if you can receive CBT without a doctor's referral at least in the USA. God forbid you can treat yourself imagine the money you'd save. That's not allowed! 😄