TRIGGER WARNING***A little while back I posted about making a little progress with coping with the sudden death of my mother. It was probably not progress because I feel that I am back where I was before! Its been 7 years now since my mother suddenly passed away. we were estranged and I did not get to say goodbye.
I cannot cope sometimes. it's too overwhelming . I am on anxiety medications I was prescribed a couple years after her death .they do not help much. I stlil have panic attacks maybe less often now but pretty frequently. I still feel a pain in my chest that wont go away, I cant breathe when I think about her. the regret that I could not resolve anything with her before her dearh becomes too much
I fantasize about going back in time like in one of those movies and getting a do over and thinking about all the things I would say to her if I could, how I would give her many hugs and try to be a better daughter. In therapy I am being treated for ptsd from having been emotionally abused by my mother and then her death, but I forgive her, I forgive her for everything and i hope she forgives me for not being the daughter she wanted. I just want her back, and after all this time I still have trouble comprehending that she is not coming back. This is not progress clearly! I do not know if or when i I will ever feel better and what it will take!! I am very lost