How do I overcome these feelings

[WVArcher]

I’m new here. I divorced almost 3 years ago. I can’t seem to shake the loneliness and stay motivated when I’m not at work. I work for the school system and coach. When I try to meet people, the anxiety is overwhelming.

[Mike504925]

Hey,You might have some social anxieties.I have a friend who deals with that.Couseling and therapy seemed to help him a lot to the point he says he’s cured.ha.

even if that doesn’t turn out to be the case it would be really helpful to start there.

Marriage can be such a union that changing that part in your life can possibly be a very hard task that would definitely get some getting use to or just to begin to learn to reprogram your mind and becoming your own best friend again..And to actually enjoy time alone.

I’m learning for myself that being alone doesn’t have to feel lonely.

It can be quite enjoyable with the right tools and mindset.

I can see your job being a good distraction.but it’s also good to know being by yourself can be a positive thing.you just have to learn how to enjoy it.

Find things you like to do.take a walk.read.watch movies.

Listen to music.

What are things you like to do.Doesn't have to be major just some enjoyable past times. doing things that make you happy to distract your mind.

I’m glad you reached out.Just know your not alone and there’s so many like minded people on here that love to help.

I know you can do this..And you will..sending love your way..🤗

[WVArcher in reply to Mike504925]

Thanks for the response. Counseling was recommended before but they never returned the call made by my regular doctor. Since I showed improvement with meds and time, we dismissed the idea for the time being.

[Mike504925 in reply to WVArcher]

I understand. Maybe give it another go.

But in the meantime.just try to find things that help you enjoy your time alone.

It honestly really helps.I know it’s hard to shake out of those lonely feelings to a point of becoming depressed.but there are ways to cope with it.especially by distracting the mind.

I myself.I get really depressed and lonely.but lately I have just been doing all these random little hobbies.And just getting out the house a bit.which I have to force myself to do.but I can honestly say it helps.

Next thing you know your moving around and times passing and being alone isn’t on my mind.im actually enjoying my time.

I hope everything works out fo you.see if you can find a couple hobbies.And try one ...and then another...just take it a step at a time..just baby steps..

[TheFallenOne]

Well, I’m glad we met and we are going through the same thing and I also have anxiety to meet people, but you were very welcoming on here and understanding. I know the loneliness sucks. It honestly does and I am so sorry. That is very hard. Like you told me, don’t let anything or anyone keep you down. Keep your head held high and I’ll do the same. 😊

[WVArcher in reply to TheFallenOne]

Definitely keep in touch. I’ll keep pushing. I wish you the best. Last weekend was a hard one for me.

[TheFallenOne in reply to WVArcher]

I will definitely will keep in touch and wish you the very best as well! You don’t have to explain why last weekend was hard for you, but I’m sorry that it was 😞 but like I said, keep your head up! We can do this!