Victimhood. Real or an excuse?

[Firebirdseal1963]

How does one identify self worth.? Is it..does anyone benefit from my existence? A measure of what I contribute to man kind? Or I’m i the kind of person I want my child to marry? Today’s youth seem to identify self worth by who or what their a victim of. Victimhood has become an accepted excuse or condtion. Why?.?

[Hidden]

why tf are you here if you think we’re all just making excuses?

[completely-zero654]

Just to let you know that people are here because like me need help.

Thanks to HealthUnlocked we can come and get support, either that or end up doing

something we do not want to do, like ending one's life. Here you have people who are going through the most difficult times of their lives,

I suspect you have some problems otherwise you would not be on here?? Sounds very much like you are a person in need of support yourself, otherwise you would not have made such a comment to upset us like this.

As Katikat1091 has said we are not on here for fun or to make excuses, our problems are extremely real, and are here because we all need help, just as you do.

Please do not make it bad on here for genuine people.

[mvillarreal]

I think saying that "today's youth" identify with what their a victim of is an unfair stereotype and a huge overgeneralization. I would need to see some studies or evidence that points to that as a fact. Otherwise, it's just a stereotype with no factual basis. Unless you can point to some serious scientific study that shows that this claim is true, there can't really be a productive discussion about why that may be the case.

[Firebirdseal1963]

But the question remains. How does one identity their self worth? I want help someone who thinks their worthless with no ambitions or drive. Are the three questions I posed a good start?

[Hidden]

Self worth, for a child, comes from those around him. As an adult, you get to redefine your self worth, and base it on what you think of yourself.

[Firebirdseal1963]

That was the point of my original inquiry. I was using the questions to guide the person into how they think of their self and redefine their worth but he kept responding with “because of” or being “victim of” using it as a barrier to any advise Thanks for not getting defensive by the question. I was beginning to think this Site was a waste of time

[Hidden in reply to Firebirdseal1963]

you thought making insensitive and condescending generalizations targeting specific group of people wasn’t going to get a bad reaction?

[Firebirdseal1963 in reply to Hidden]

Did any of the advice for back pain work? Lower or upper back!

[Firebirdseal1963 in reply to Firebirdseal1963]

Were you injured?

[Dolphin14]

You should lock your oost

[Firebirdseal1963]

That is so sad 😞.

[Firebirdseal1963]

Victimhood or victim mentality is a real condition with supporting research in psychology. One of the foundation of individuals harboring a victim mentality would believe that: their lives are a series of challenges directly aimed at them; most aspects of life are negative and beyond their control; the challenges in their lives merit the deserving of sympathy; as they have little power to change things, little action should be taken to improve their problems. In essence, victim mentality/ victimhood is a method of avoiding responsibility and critisem, receiving attention and compassion evading feelings of genuine anger. As illustrated in some responses to this post those surfering this condition are very quick to convert the question into instant criticism thereby victimizing themselves and in today’s court of public opinion victims could never be at fault for anything. So the answer to the question is both; victimhood is real and used as an excuse. How is it treated?