Ugly Duckling and Negative Thoughts

For most of my life; I have always seen myself as an "ugly duckling" and I have never seen myself as pretty or beautiful. Am I "ugly" to guys? I have always had a low self esteem, I have low self worth, wonder and question what my purpose is on this earth, and why was I even born?

[Hidden]

Does anyone know why they where put on this earth? Im not sure we do.

Is it low self esteem that makes you feel this way, is there anything that makes you happy?

[mary_alice]

Oof I relate to this too much. It is such a journey, I can't even stress that enough. It sounds like there's some generalizing going on. Try to catch those snowballing negative thoughts early! I found that recognizing and understanding why we distort things in our mind help us negate them. Here is an awesome worksheet that might help you!: redemptionpsychiatry.com/do...

[fauxartist]

I know of very attractive people who don't think they are good looking. and I know attractive people who are ugly people on the inside. So beauty is as beauty does. If we don't think well of ourselves, and beat ourselves down...then that's what others will see, and it's not an attractive quality in someone who is down on themselves all the time. Real beauty is how someone treats others and how they handle themselves. In this day and age of 'Kardashians' and 'Plastic Barbies' as roll models ....it's very hard to navigate those waters....but anyone who wades in those shallows gets what they deserve..shallow people. If you have confidence in yourself, and are a good person.that is an attractive quality..Looks are not the long term reason for a relationship. Avoid shallow people who are looking for that....they are in the wind quickly and are meaningless.....

[Hidden]

I’ve felt the same way! I have 2 older sisters who I think are gorgeous and I’m the ugly duckling. My dad even said that a couple times(we don’t talk anymore). I struggle with self confidence and self worth, that’s my biggest hurdle. Find the little things that make you happy and never let anyone make u feel worthless!!! Ik it’s easier said than done. Working out and doing my art really helps me!

[Hidden]

Our purpose is found through the daily tasks of life. It isn’t immediately revealed but unfolds over a lifetime. You just have to play the hand you were dealt. Eventually you see why things happened the way they did/do.