Noooooooooo! Why? :(

[Hopeful111]

Hi-

So update and insight needed....my BF was on Lexapro, and everything was great- but then I could tell things were changing- he was reverting back....and then he admitted that he stopped taking it- because he was getting headaches and then finally admitted that he felt different when on them- well isn't that the point?!!!! He was relaxed and happy - not a zombie- it just took the edge off= perfect. So he shut down for a week now and didnt talk to me until i finally reached out to him today- he is super depressed and says they are trying to determine if he is bi-polar. I basically said why put a label on it- he found his *magic pill* - why not just get back on it and continue his therapy ( he didnt stop and goes 2x a week)to adjust to his *new self*- am I wrong? I am so disappointed and sad that he reverted- i thought we have finally found the answer- and now im just sad and confused if i should stick this out----thoughts please?

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I was on Lexapro twice in my life and experienced men's issues....is it possible he discontinued the medicine due to that? Are you sure he was relaxed and happy on the Lexapro? I can also attest, some medications truly do not feel better...and a lot of us will often sway away from them. There's a lot of questions probably only he can answer. Sometimes there's always the chance of a placebo effect....how long was he on the medication before quitting? Usually these types of meds take at least a month or so. I think the best thing you can do is allow him to figure this out a bit. The solutions aren't always very simple and they're always changing. More patience and understanding I'm guessing. There is rarely a magic pill or cure all. Some of the best ones are the worst ones...depending on what he's dealing with.

The best part of this all that I would focus on is he's continuing to go to therapy. This is so paramount because that's where a lot of the cognitive work is done. So, I know your sad and you only want the best for him, but perhaps he's just doing what is best for him. I would ask further, if he allows, what about the Lexapro caused him to discontinue it. Feelings, thoughts, side effects? For a lot of us, these issues are an ongoing struggle and the goal is functioning while coping. Prior, I lost a lot of significant others who just didn't understand, want to understand, or finally lost patience with my anxiety. And I will add, some really did try. Coming from someone who MIGHT be like him, the best he can do is give you the truth on the matters...especially if you are patient with a good ear. If he's a good person, someone you truly enjoy being around, and cares a great deal for you...and you for him...yes, stick it out, and do your best in terms of support as you are. It sounds like you already do provide that. I truly hope the best outcome for both of you...and I hope I didn't come off sounding rude. It can be a tricky situation.

[Michdau1]

Hi hopeful111. Good to hear things from a 'supporters' perspective. Firstly, it is obvious how much you care for Ur bf otherwise it would be so easy to walk away. THANK YOU for caring and being on his side because it is not easy and he may forget to say that to u 😉 it seems like he still has hope and wants to get better. It seems like he is really trying. Don't ever feel guilty or that's it's your fault that stuff doesn't change overnight. Honestly, this will likely be a long, frustrating and bumpy process but once he finds the right treatment (that may or may not include any meds) and comes to certain realisations about his triggers and coping mechanisms etc, I hope you will see a difference together. You sound like a good team XXX always remember that you need support too. It is a lot to take on and to deal with but hopefully worth it xxx