Cannot sleep

My mom is bipolar.

So, for three years my mom has been off work. She is on disability now and her husband is on welfare.

I’ve helped them as much a so can with money.

I try to talk to my mom everyday But I notice it’s mqking me angry and worried

She is always sick or taking a new medication or sleeping pill or something.

She tells me she is not hungry. She only eats one meal a day. And that it is out of a box or can. When I tell her to change her diet she says nothing. Now her dr told her she has to change diet. She is always sleeping.

She tells me her husband always leaves to his kids or he makes extra money on side playing in a band yet never gives any money for the food. She won’t make a dinner for herself she says cause it’s only her and she wants to save food for both of them so she will eat canned food or kraft dinner v

I sent her money she spent it on clothes I asked her she need more now she needs to get a new diet plan going she said she ok

Mom says she living off 300 for two cause she has to pay 200 for her husband he owes money to government

My mom never raised me or gave a damn about me and now she quit her job she is imposing on me to take care of her when I clearly am struggling to care for me

My mom has been shaking for a year now she is now being tested for Parkinson’s which make sense she is not eating because she said she is not hungry

I can’t sleep because I am always worrying on top of my shit her shit

And now will I get parkinsons too ? Fuck this world is ducked

My mom is now seeing a new dr he has taken her off two pills and she is still in her bipolar meds I don’t know

She is sleeping a lot

Everyday she is talking about a new medication or sickness or something

[MsLockYourPosts]

Can you go with your mother to an appointment? It might help for you to hear exactly what the doctor is saying. You might also be able to find out what social services can offer.

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Thx for reply mom lives in another province. She has a church and she knows where to get resources. She gives her husband money. He gets 600 for welfare she gets 1100. And she gives him 200. The rest on bills.

He makes extra on side. But my mom tells me she always needs money , she didn’t ate , she on or off medications. Right now she takes four.

[MsLockYourPosts in reply to Hidden]

I’m in the US, so not familiar with social services there. Are there food banks or something along those lines available to your mother. Does her church offer any social services? It sounds like your mother has found that the easiest way to deal with things is to rely on you. I hope you can find someone who can monitor her welfare in a way that allows you to refer her back to them, instead of you ending up being a never ending fix it.

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Yup she can go to the church everyday to eat and she goes to get some stuff at a church

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She won’t eat there or something

[MsLockYourPosts in reply to Hidden]

I hope that you can find a connection through the church who can monitor what’s going on with your mom. I know how hard it is to be a long distance caregiver. Would the church give her meals to go, if they understood the issue. Perhaps there is someone there, who you could trust, who could deal with the money you send, to insure it is being used as needed. You could also try setting up an account directly with her pharmacy to insure that the money sent for prescriptions is spent for that. I hope this helps some. There are no easy answers for a situation like the one you are dealing with.

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Government pays for your prescriptions and she should have enough money to buy her own food the problem is she’s not eating. She only buys canned foods or package. I don’t k ow her province but she could eat

She probably very depressed and don’t think she deserves much.