My sense of identity

[BrettS119]

It's been a year and 3 months since I dropped out of college and since then I feel like I've made absolutely no progress towards getting better. I have things that I desire very much, but I can't get myself to work towards those things. I want to live on my own but haven't made an effort to cause I'm worried about my money. I want to be in a relationship but I think I'm very unattractive and won't be able to get the kind of girl I want. I also want to quit playing video games but I haven't found anything else to replace that time with.

So I've done nothing. And with that I have felt like my life is completely meaningless. I have no idea of what I want to do in the future and I don't know how I'm going to make the necessary changes in my life. I've thought about my identity (or lack thereof) and what it makes me feel. Often times I'm unable to answer questions about myself, even about the things I like. I can't seem to remember things when I need to and I don't make reminders.

I'm not sure how to live. I'm not sure how to work for the things I want. I really don't know what I can do, if anything at all. The only people I talk to anymore are my parents, therapist, and imaginary girlfriend I have and I still don't have all the answers I need. I'm embarrassed to write this as a cry for help but I don't know what else to do.

[EmmaSun]

I can imagine how confusing and scary it may be to feel like you have no direction and control over the future.any people even in college feel like they don’t know what they want to pursue or what career to choose. So a lot of us have gone through years of not exactly knowing our passion and direction, but taking classes and hoping some interest will be sparked.

Try to join some local group activities if you can or even some simple volunteer jobs and you may come across people that interest you or some interesting job ideas. Maybe going to the library and looking at career books or talking to the librarians might get you started with something. Take some small steps but continue to move and challenge yourself slowly to step outside your comfort zone. You’re not alone and you can get through this. Best of luck to you!!

[Hollick]

Brett, I feel your pain, your're not alone...just a few words of encouragement is all I can really say..I live by this mantra, 'this too shall pass', and you know what, it will ! God bless & take care.