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Probably not but it feels like it

Lulu2788
Lulu2788

Some days I notice it more than others but today, it seemed like every person I encountered changed their attitude when interacting with me. Afraid that maybe my RBF happens easily I smile and try to counter act that so when I do talk to somebody they aren’t immediately thinking negative.

Example: checking out.. the cashier is super friendly to the person in front of me and behind me but cold to me? Even after I engage in friendly conversation please and thank your... whatever I can do to make it a kind meet n greet. Still I walk away wondering is there something wrong w me? Did I dress myself horribly today? Is there shit all over my face like what is it? Lol

I know my anxiety runs deep and I can be self conscious... idk if it’s me or not but it feels like people I don’t even know have such a low tolerance for me the second the see me.

Not sure if this makes sense to anyone just needed get it out there.

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Wow, I think about this and face this almost everyday. As I kept reading what you wrote, it kept seeming more relatable. The biggest give away of knowing people don't find interest in me is that they don't give much eye contact with me. What hurts is that I try to smile and be nice. I know my personality is more on the dull side, and my looks aren't that great, but, regardless, I try to be nice, yet, it never pleases anyone.

It does hurt doesn’t it? It happens to me so often that whenever I am out n about it’s not that I’m looking and waiting for it but I’m definitely more aware when it’s noticeable.

I have never had many girl friends because of this... people take one look at me and either give me no time of day or just flat short and rude to me.

Like you said my personality can be a bit dull but I also am a very giving person too just kinda waiting for the right moment or person to come along and not instantly glare and hate my guts.

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Hidden in reply to Lulu2788

Yeah I don't have any friends. I want to think it's just how people are, but since I've seen the same pattern with almost everyone I've approached, I guess it must just be me. I hate going any place where I know people will be around because I hate feeling that way. Constant rejection.

Lulu2788
Lulu2788 in reply to Hidden

Wow, I’m the same way. No friends and being in public makes me so uncomfortable bc I feel so vulnerable.

Rejection sucks. Never ever feels good!

Maybe because you are attractive people feel threatened?

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Hidden in reply to Lulu2788

Hahaha I wish I could say I'm attractive.

And absolutely, rejection puts you in a vulnerable state, and it's unfortunate.

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Hidden in reply to Lulu2788

Do you feel more comfortable on here chatting with people?

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Hidden in reply to Hidden

I have learned to deal with it, I don't let it bother me anymore it is what it is. I just go about my business now and enjoy myself on my own, yes it is possible.

Although I understand not knowing why people are like this can be frustrating.

Oh well.

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Hidden in reply to Hidden

It really can be frustrating. I tip my hat off to you for being able to look past it. You have more confidence that I do.

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I don't think there is any other way around it, if you know of any do tell.

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If I had the answers, there would be no problem, lol. I wish I did.

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Hidden in reply to Hidden

Me too lol maybe someday we will work it all out 😁

Hi I get what you are saying but not everyone takes to us. I have had lots of occasions when someone else gets smiled at by the eyes and I get nothing much. It is hurtful but that's just the way it is. I would love to be one of those people everyone takes to but most of us aren't.

On the subject of friends though I never made any until my late 20's and never knew what I was doing wrong. I wanted to learn how to make friends so I set myself to watch and study how others interacted, especially the popular folk. It took quite a long time but I copied their behaviour adjusting it of course to my own personality, and eventually I did manage to make friends. I have never been friendless since. x

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