I thought I found someone who understood me.

[DemureRose]

She acted like she understood why I didn’t go out. She didn’t judge me like my last friends. Apparently though that means that she knows me better than anyone. I’ve known her less than a year but she’s already telling me how I feel. Already correcting me when I explain a feeling. “I can be antisocial” her responded “No. You aren’t. Trust me you aren’t.” Maybe not. But don’t TELL me something about myself. I just want someone who is okay with not knowing everything about me. Who accepts my mysteries.

[EleanorRose]

Hi

I've actually just replied to your other post.

It sounds like you are having a difficult time at the moment and need some kind and understanding friends. Do you have any family you could talk to?

You are the expert on you and no one can know you better than you know yourself.

Sometimes we need other people to help us understand ourselves but someone telling you something about yourself is frustrating and unhelpful.

Have you tried to explain to her how that makes you feel? Or (kindly) challenged her and asked her why she thinks those things? It's possible she doesn't realise how she is making you feel and if she knew, she may try and change her ways. Sometimes well-meaning people can get it wrong but, equally, this doesn't give her the right to treat you how she is.

I'd say, if she regularly does things like this, perhaps stop confiding in her for a while. That's not to say you can't still be friends with her if you want to be but if telling her things is upsetting you, then perhaps it's time to stop.

EleanorRose