My birthday

[NeuronerdDoaty]

My birthday was the 23rd. My dad passed on the 6th. So I just made it through my first birthday without the greatest person in my life. My dad would be proud of me.

[Booklover0219]

Yes, your dad would be very proud. You’re a brave fighter. You do so much for many people and you are loved. Happy Birthday. 🎁 Do something very special for yourself. You deserve it. ❤️

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Booklover0219]

Thank you Booklover! In his honor I went for the best Mexican food at lunch I’ve had in ages. I’m going to celebrate him every year.

[kenster1 in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

hi doaty although times like this can come with much sadness I admire the way you are looking at it.stay strong and take care.

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to kenster1]

Thanks Ken. It helps when you know people have your back. You’re very good to me.

[kenster1 in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

thank you doaty likewise from you to me.

[Hidden]

Yes he would. 🤗

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Hidden]

Thanks!

[Hidden in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

I lost my dad and my fil who was the only real dad to me in the last year. It was the anniversary a week ago. I'm so sorry for your loss. I k ow it's hard. Just do something for him this Christmas. We are here for you.

[senorab12]

You can be certain that he is proud of you, he’s watching over you from above! Just look at how much you’ve accomplished.

[Hidden]

Ya your a very cool person always kind to others. Bless your heart and be proud of you. Thanks for being kind to me

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Hidden]

You’re very sweet💛

[Hidden]

That’s really difficult to lose a parent. Even harder at the holiday and birthday time. What a great thought to know he would be proud of you. I hope you are proud of you also. It is such a nice tribute to your dad for you to say he was the greatest person in your life. I can see why he would be proud. The apple doesnt fall far from the tree. Happy birthday and carry on in your fathers footsteps💜

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Hidden]

Ty Hoski. I wish you all could have known him. From now on it’s Mexican food in celebration of Pops life! You’re very kind. 💛

[Hidden in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

I hope my two sons have such kind thoughts of me when Im gone. No better legacy.

[MrZee]

It is difficult losing a parent that has been so adored.

Each year my Mother always sent me a birthday card as well as a card for the Holidays and New Year. After she passed in 2017 it’s been an empty feeling not seeing a card from her in the mailbox especially around the holidays. Today she and her loving cards are just a memory. But a very sweet one like that.

So yes, celebrate your father’s memory regularly. I’m sure he’s up there looking down at you feeling quite proud.

Best,

-MZ

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to MrZee]

What a great memory. Thank you for sharing MrZee💛

[K8ella]

That is something to be proud of! Your strength is inspiring to me. Happy Belated Bday to you!

[Sillysausage234]

🎄

[Hidden]

Big hug very proud of you for reaching out your dad would be very proud of you. Merry Christmas

[JEG325]

D, Though I'm not around near as much now, you can always talk to me. I have a similar problem.....My dad died on Feb 28, almost exactly one month before my birthday on March 25. I was only 32 at the time and I have never celebrated my birthday since then.

Valentine's Day & Easter are also sore points with me, as is anyone else's birthday 30 days on either side of the day he died.

Only now is my sweetie beginning to remove some of the stigma associated with that time of the year. So, I understand well.

My sweetie and I send you lots of love and hugs, as well as best wishes for these trying times. We're both available to talk should you need us.

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to JEG325]

What’s so odd is I never really celebrated anyway. It’s weird that there are people and things you have that you’re unaware will bother you when part of it’s gone.

Just knowing you’re a message away is very calming.

[JEG325 in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

Good. Enjoy the holidays. As I've been told many times, our departed loved ones would want us to enjoy the holidays.

We do more of a disservice to their memories by being miserable because of our memories than if we just up and enjoyed ourselves.

One thing we can do is make the holidays in honor of our departed loved ones and include our best memories of them in with the holiday itself!

I am in bed now and need to get some sleep. I just wanted you to know I am thinking of you. Okay?

I will continue to pray for you too. 'Night, D!

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to JEG325]

Sleep well.

[Coloradowalker]

As a fellow lover of good Mexican food, I think honoring your father with this and anything else that rings special is what he would want. I’m hoping that your holidays are exactly as you want them❤️

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Coloradowalker]

Thank you my friend! Happy holidays to you!💛

[Coloradowalker]

No.... thank you my friend. Reading your posts has been a welcome distraction at the end of a tough day. You have so much wisdom and kindness. Wish I knew you personally. How lucky we all would be to be able to share and cry and laugh and hug in person???

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Coloradowalker]

That would be so fun!