I tend to freak out because I chose not to have children and my brother and his wife lead their own lives and i dont want to be a burden on them
Anyways I seem.to be ok with this birthday like I accepted things.
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I was born a blue baby forgot to mention that in my first post. My biological mother had me in a bathroom in Korea and she left me with my umbilical cord wrapped around my neck. Yeahhh
I've been adopted by the most AMAZING family they are my real family.
I think that's it ty for listening
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Hi I get this as my youngest sister is the same. She lives locally but has 2 grand step children, the youngest is around 7 now and I have never even seen him. She has made it very clear she only has time and energy for her own family (one grown up son, and 2 grown up stepchildren). I even get ignored at Christmas. I do have a number of friends though who always remember my birthday and I spend my time with them instead. It is hurtful though isn't it?
I hope you have a good birthday and spend it with those who care about you. x
Don't be. Not all friends have to understand in order to be friends. My depression doesn't define me and I feel better after time spent in their company. x
I get why you feel stressed out about your Birthday coming up. I get the same for a different reason.
My reason is that unless I not only tell my partner what to buy he will not buy me anything. He probably would not get me a card even. I know that he loves me not because he says it. He doesn't. I know it because he is always there for me and does lots of little kind caring things, for example if I say I am going on a bike ride he will get my bike out, check the tyres etc without me even asking. So why mind about the Birthday thing, but I do mind, big time.
I also get the argument about if it matters if friends or relatives understand our anxiety or depression or not. I mind that my partner does not get it and it is brilliant that my daughter does. If my friends were my main source of support I would probably mind alot if they did not get it. As it is I have one friend who does because she had been through it herself and others who I have told and do not get it and others I have not told because I know they would never get it. I have fun with all of them and on the whole do not mind whether they get it or not. Sometimes if I am low or extra vulnerable for some reason it does upset me when they say something that shows they don't get it.
I think if friends are your main source of support, it is bound to hurt you if they don't get it.
I’m noticing people don’t support me either. It’s because they don’t understand. People think crazy people are weird or in the past, are criminals. People don’t understand mental health
No but why expect them too? Unless you have experienced it yourself or loved ones have there is no reason for them to understand. Do friends have to know to be good friends? Having people who take your mind off your own problems is invaluable. x
What are you talking about ? When you say, “ there is no reason for them to understand”. People don’t understand meaning they don’t get it. They can’t comprehend.
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People know right and wrong why can’t they know how to be a good friend?
Happy early birthday! My umbilical cord was wrapped around my neck too. Among other medical issues. You are amazing and great! And I hope you have the greatest birthday ever!
What is a Blue baby? Never let Society detate how you should live your Life. One of my daughters asked me is it ok if she didn't give me a grandchild? I'm like NO, that's not going to make a difference for me, don't let Society put that kind of Pressure on You. Live for your self. That's Great that you have Awesome adoptive parents.
Happy Birthday to the baby who lived! 🎈 I hope it’s wonderful and you find the joy in small things!
I have also chosen not to have children. My family is pretty small and don’t live too close. My sisters and I understand each other pretty well, but we don’t really talk to each other. It’s a personality trait we have. So I get it. My birthday is near Christmas so it tends to get overlooked. This last birthday was celebrated with dinner with my husband, a month and a half later and was more of an afterthought...”oh, you love this restaurant, this can be your birthday dinner.” I don’t have close friends and it feels hardest at my birthday. I always wonder why I care but I know it’s because I see others celebrate so big.
Happy Birthday! Don’t feel sad on your birthday, go out and do something that makes you happy! Glad you’re thankful for a wonderful family adopting you, they chose you. Be glad and happy, life is full of possibilities!
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