What to do when you have no friends?

[baconbosss]

I have always knew that I am an introvert. I do not enjoy social gatherings, I miss out on them whenever I can, I don't like being in the center of attention or taking part in it. But hey, everyone needs friends right? Having to study overseas meant that I had to leave my friends behind. Make new ones, no big deal... But leaving means you forget people, and you get forgotten. That's like a double blow. no friends here, no friends when I'm back home either. No one gets me... I feel terrible. my boyfriend tries his best to make me open up, but I'm just too ashamed......... cause I'm disgusting. I dont think I'm worth being alive even. fk this

[EleanorRose]

You are not disgusting and you matter. Please don’t feel ashamed of yourself. Some people are extroverts, others introverts, some more in the middle.

Some people are happy on their own, or to have 1 or 2 friends, some want to be part of a huge group. Everyone is different and that is totally ok. You say everyone needs friends as a question. That answer is different for everyone. What is it YOU need?

Studying abroad is a huge life change and will one day prove an invaluable experience. These sorts of things are harder if we are introverted so you should feel proud of yourself for that in itself.

Your boyfriend clearly doesn’t view you in the same way you view yourself - why not try opening up a little to him and seeing how it feels? That first, honest conversation will probably be hard, but it will get easier.

Is there someone from back home you could message and get back in contact with? I have friends I have drifted apart from as our lives have gone in different directions but that doesn’t mean I have forgotten them and I would be thrilled to hear from them.

I’m so glad you came here to express how you feel, I know how hard that is. Feel free to message anytime if you need to.

[mvillarreal]

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this right now. You might not believe this right now, and that's okay, but I think that you are a wonderful human being no matter what, and you are not disgusting. You do deserve to live. Why? Because you are a human who has imperfections and differences, but that is okay. The parts of ourselves we despise often have the greatest gifts to offer the world. Have you thought about maybe joining some kind of group, book club, or volunteer organization? Also, have you maybe thought of trying to contact some of the people you feel may have forgotten you? Maybe they haven't. Could you maybe consider trying to get back in touch with some of them?

[Hidden]

I don't have any fiends, but I do have a husband and daughter and mother in laws. I am fine with myself at the moment. Friends are too much work and they don't get me at all. Be happy with yourself because really it's all we can really count on.

[JEG325]

You can always join a chatline with a group of like minded people. I, myself am a serious introvert. On my chatlines all you have to be is yourself. Each chatline contains 12 to 17 people from this site. I oversee the chatlines on my own pm, right here on this very site and I don't permit bullying, profanity, crudeness or illegal activities. I guarantee not one of your fellow chatees will think you are disgusting! I also guarantee you that you deserve to be alive! Your boyfriend would agree. Look, Circle Of Friends 4 & 5 are taking members & Circle Of Friends 6 will need good people when I form it. The chatlines are open 24/7 and are completely free to use! I also have a writing group too! If you want to try it, I simply add your username to the chatline. Across my 8 chatlines, I have 60 good, solid people that just need someone to talk to occasionally. They would love you and try and be as helpful as possible. As, always, the decision is completely yours! Whether you join or not, I wish you a happy, blessed day! If you wish to join I will fill you on the super easy way to access the site(s).