Anxiety out of control

[leopardluvr]

Ever since upping my antidepressant my anxiety has been insane. I’m very afraid that my bf is going to break up with me (but he’s probs not going to), I’m anxious about money and work, I’m anxious about my body. I feel like I’m failing at everything in life right now. I don’t know how to stop all the negative self talk and out of control thoughts

[Hidden]

Your mind is racing. You need to do your best to take control of the thoughts and worries you have. Everything you are worried about will be ok.

Contact your doctor and inform them what you are going through since the increase. You body may be adjusting to it in a way of mental shock. The last you need is for it to worsen.

Try to control your breathing. Focus on calming your thoughts down. As to know that nothing you are concerned about will take place as you are seeing among your anxiety.

You need to take control and do your best to slow this down and continue to take full control of yourself. Be confident. 😊

[leopardluvr in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[Beevee in reply to leopardluvr]

If I may just clarify the point made by Brainstorm17 with regard to anxious thoughts.

Firstly, if you suffer from anxiety, you will get anxious thoughts about anything and everything. Those that resonate with you for any particular reason may sting a little more and tempt you to reason with them, to try and figure them out, simply because of their shock value when they first flashed into your head. Intrusive thoughts are a by product of anxiety. Thoughts aren’t real, they are not based on what is actually happening in your life. Without anxiety being present, they simply wouldn’t be there and most certainly would not command the respect you are currently giving them.

You cannot control your thoughts any more than you can control the incoming tide so don’t bother trying. The only thing you can control is how you react to those thoughts that pop into your head. My guess is that you have placed belief in those thoughts and then worry about them. This is counterproductive as fighting those thoughts fuels your anxiety so those thoughts will continue to come. Essentially, you are trying to rationalise an anxious thought with an anxious mind! You are trying to put out a fire with petrol!

Anyhow, the way to stop those thoughts coming is to let them come, watch them do their thing (scare you) and then do absolutely nothing about them. By adopting a passive approach and not reacting in fear (e.g. What if my b/f does leave me!???) you stop fuelling your anxiety and those thoughts start to lose their power to shock and gradually disappear.

The key to overcoming anxiety is to give up trying to control it. Only then will you begin to regain control.

I used to have thousands of negative thoughts, the ones that struck a chord with me were mostly about my relationship or relationships in general. And do you know what? When I gave up trying to control those thoughts and not pay them any respect, they faded away. They were just a figment of an anxious mind but I made the mistake of placing belief in those thoughts and spent along time going round in circles, trying to reason with them, to try and forget them or trying to suppress them. None of these techniques worked because I was trying too hard to think and feel different.

Anxiety is a paradox. Human instinct says we must fight this thing to get rid of it. However, cure of all fear based disorders lies in doing the exact opposite which is doing nothing to get rid of the symptoms you fear. It is the “trying” that keeps people stuck in the anxiety cycle.

[leopardluvr in reply to Beevee]

Thank you