Once you see a pattern, you can't un-see it

The recent downfall of my marriage has made clear a pattern that has been recurring over and over in my life that I was never really aware of. I reach a certain plateau, position, or accomplishment, then get comfortable and lethargic. It has happened in several areas of my life; sports, school, work, relationships, etc. I have finally realized it and am trying to pull myself out of this pattern but it is probably too late to save my marriage. Depression, anxiety, and self-esteem have all combined to hide this pattern from me for most of my life.

I'm not sure what made me reach out in this forum, but I cannot rely on my wife for any comfort or support. Not that she's awful, but she is basically done with "us." It's hard to imagine moving on from her, but I'm certain that's what I'll have to do.

I am hopeful, however, that I will continue on my road of recovery and discovery. Finding myself has become a mission of sorts but it will be a difficult journey.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading.

[kenster1]

hi my friend if its worth saving save it.dont let your life together be torn apart from anxiety or depression.

[Agora1]

Hi Egdod and Welcome to this amazing forum. You have found a safe place to come

and exchange your fears and worries with others who understand and who care.

As difficult as the journey may be, you will find that you are no longer alone. We learn

from each other's experiences in life. Taking one step at a time will get you to a

comfortable place in your life. I'm glad you found us. You've taken your first step

in going forward.

[stephy82]

Hi, while I am the least qualified on relationship matters, I welcome you to this forum where will people listen, understand and talk to you. So you will have an avenue to decompress and vent at peace. You can get through this, and we are here for you.

[Catwoman2018]

Hi and thank you for reaching out. You will find lots of support here. I'm sorry you're going through a troubled time and if you want to talk, anytime, I am here for you.

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I would say that unless you’re telling us you reach your goal and become lazy, there’s nothing wrong with reaching a goal and becoming comfortable. That’s the aim of a goal.

If you then choose another goal, that’s up to you but you don’t always have to constantly strive. Take some time out to enjoy your achievements.