When it rains it pours

[Bluekayak]

I am really glad I joined this group last night because in a turn of events I was just fired from my job about an hour ago.

I’ve never been let go from a job before so I am taking it pretty roughly. I had been there for over a year. I was having trouble concentrating and made some mistakes on paperwork increasingly over the past few months. I’ve never felt so much like a failure than I do now. I just tried so hard to do everything correctly and anytime I messed up I was harshly reminded by a coworker that takes pleasure in calling people out in the office, not just me. I’ve been going to sleep every night for the past month dreading going to work and having this person rudely knock me down with words everyday. I was already trying to find a new job but I never thought they would fire me...

I’m just feeling numb and in shock. I’ve already been battling depression and this is a hard blow.

[jkl5500]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Any kind of rejection in life is hard to take. You start thinking that you're inferior, worthless, etc. It hurts terribly, but it's what everyone goes through when this stuff happens. And when you're suffering from depression, all the negatives get magnified 100 times.

But from what you've written, this job looked like a no-win situation for you. Even if they didn't fire you, you'd be subject to the snide remarks from an ignorant jerk every day. In the long run, they may have done you a favor by giving you a chance to get another job where you'll be respected.

I'm sure it's a tough day for you. Feel free to vent here if you need to. You're welcome to PM me also.

Take care,

jkl5500

[Bluekayak in reply to jkl5500]

You’re right, this was probably a good thing even though it doesn’t feel like it yet. Battling those negative thoughts is just difficult sometimes. I appreciate your input very much.

[brickk]

It may be hard, but try to see this as a blessing! Sometimes life has a weird way of working out and you certainly have better things coming your way! Just because you were fired doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough, it just means that this job wasn’t right for you. Try to be positive ❤️

[Bluekayak in reply to brickk]

Thank you for the encouragement, I needed to hear that.

[jk76244]

Be relieved that you never have to go back to that toxic environment!

I think your skills will flourish in the right environment surrounded by good people.

Take a day to relax, then start your job hunt! Don’t let your experience there keep you from knowing a great new position is waiting from you.

Sometimes doors close for a reason... time to go out & fresh air (in your case a fresh new job environment)!

[hypercat54]

Hi I have been dismissed before and it's a horrible feeling isn't it? You feel like the worlds biggest failure and nothing helps you feel any better. Nothing except time that is. In my experience I have always found a better job after so sometimes it's fate.

Lick your wounds for now then pick yourself up and start looking again for the much nicer job which is out there and just waiting for you. x

[Hidden]

I have had the exact same thing happen to me in the past, I was trying so hard and I was let go! It’s like you are grieving... I went home and cried, I got over it and felt a lot better but it took a while. Then I talked to others who had the same thing happen and I realized I wasn’t alone. It really happened for the better. I realized later that it was just not the job for me. Found a much better job!

I hope you are feeling better, I know it’s a hard blow 🤗

[Bluekayak in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! I’m feeling more positive than I did this morning. It really helped hearing how other people went through this and are doing better.

[Hidden in reply to Bluekayak]

Yes for sure! I remember the first time it happened to me! I was devastated!! Things always get better, at the time it’s hard to believe, but it always does 😊

[Hidden in reply to Bluekayak]

By the way I have a green kayak! 😁

[Bluekayak in reply to Hidden]

That’s awesome! I think I’ll try to take mine out tomorrow. It really helps to not stay at home when I feel like this

[Hidden in reply to Bluekayak]

Our water is frozen 😕

You must live someplace warm! 😊

Sunshine would do me some good!

[snflwrgrl]

Sometimes it does feel that way, when it rains it pours. You are not alone! I’m glad you reached out. <3 I will be praying for you, for God’s guidance as you look for a new job and for your depression. Have you considered seeing a counselor? I see a Christian counselor and sometimes it just helps to talk. One may be able to help you too. Hang in there! You are worthy!! and this too shall pass. Big hug!

[Bluekayak in reply to snflwrgrl]

Thank you! I have thought about therapy but it’s so expensive I haven’t been able to do that yet. I know it would help though. I really appreciate the prayers and the kind words 💙

[snflwrgrl in reply to Bluekayak]

You’re welcome! I have a number where you can get a free consultation 1-855-771-4357. You may also want to check if there is any reduced fee counseling available in your area. Our county provides counseling based on your income. Our church also provides low cost counseling. I hope this helps. I’m really glad you’re a part of this group. <3

[Bluekayak in reply to snflwrgrl]

Thank you! I will check this out

[RAYOFHOPE88]

Now your body can rest. I'm currently going through a similar situation. My job requires me to meet a quota but, I've began to fall short. The pressure has just drained my body. Many of us worry about working because of financial security. When does our mental health take the front seat? Your body was telling you that it needed rest. Mine is telling me the same. Don't think of it as a hard blow. Think of it as fresh spring air. You've been removed from a place that was taking from you mentally, emotionally, and physically. Enjoy your relief 🤗.

[Bluekayak in reply to RAYOFHOPE88]

I’m surprised how much relief I’ve felt not having to go there anymore. And yes most of my anxiety is from worry about finances until I find something else. It’s good to know other people know what it feels like and have such good advice. Thank you! Made my day a little brighter

[RAYOFHOPE88 in reply to Bluekayak]

Yay 🤗! LOL. I'm glad that I could help.

[Humankind-BE_BOTH]

This group is awesome. So are you and another better door will open