Very difficult being depressed, having anxiety and take care of kids 😥

[Kat2345]

I lost my father and 3 months later I lost my brother. After these two losses my anxiety and depression got very bad. I have 5 y.o. twins. It so difficult to take care of kids during this time. My husband works 2 shifts to support us. I'm trying medication #4. I'm so sick from trying so many medications. They just don't work for me and we still are trying to find the one that would work. Why???? life is so unfair???? I don't want to be rich, just wanna be healthy and be able to take care of my family 😥. My doctor can't find the right medication for me. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I'm very weak. Maybe I'm dying? Sorry, just wanted to let it out.

[HappyThinkin]

Hello Dear,

Im so sorry you feel so down. Im in the same boat. Anxiety and depression and have to take care of my young kids. Keep trying the meds. Something will work but you have to be patient. It's hard when you can't sleep or eat. Maybe you can ask your doc for some sleeping medication to help you out from that angle. You also need to force yourself to eat. You must eat!!! Maybe if it's just a little. You probably should try therapy too if you have time. Both meds and therapy are your best bet. If you have time please check out Douglas Bloch Healing from Depression on youtube. He's amazing. He helped me so much going through this horrific time. God Bless and Stay Strong!

What meds have you tried?

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

Thank you so much for your kind words! They mean so much for me now! And also thank you for your suggestions. I will try to find time to get and read that book. So far, I tried Remeron, Buspar, Lexapro and I'm taking Trazodon now with no success. I'm so sick from trying so many different meds. Today I started to throw up from severe anxiety.

[HappyThinkin in reply to Kat2345]

Do you have any Klonopin or Ativan on hand? You should ask your doctor for it to prevent the severe anxiety. You take it when you feel it coming on. Also, ask for an increase in dose for the Trazadone for sleep or switch to something else. You have to get some sleep and you'll feel a little better! Please call your doctor today. You have to take care of the little ones. And please watch the youtube videos I suggested. It'll help you process. Lmk how it goes today. God Bless!

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

Thank you! ❤

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

I have an appointment with my doc today and I'm gonna ask about Klonopin. Thanks!

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

I was listening "Letting go off worry when depressed and anxious with Douglas Bloch" and I liked a lot!!! I worry too much about everything - my past, my future... It was very useful to listen. Thank you again! I will listen more of his videos.

[HappyThinkin in reply to Kat2345]

Im so glad!!! He's really great! Did you get some short term quick relief anti-anxiety meds? I hope so.

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

My doc prescribed Hydroxizine Pam for anxiety. She said it's not addictive and I can take it every day. She also prescribed new drug- Effexor.

[HappyThinkin in reply to Kat2345]

Great! Let me know if that works for you. Also, please keep on watching those Douglas Bloch videos! They are so incredibly helpful.

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

How old are your kids? How do you deal with stress from kids?

[HappyThinkin in reply to Kat2345]

Both under 10. It's very very hard. I make myself do it even though my head is spinning and I can't concentrate. How have you been? Are the meds working?

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

I almost got into ER after start taking Effexor. Now I'm back on Zoloft. So far, I c as n see just a little improvement. But even this better than nothing. It's so hard to take care of kids when I don't feel good. And I get stressed out easily.

[HappyThinkin in reply to Kat2345]

Thats good that Zoloft is starting to work. What dose r u taking? I just started at 12.5 and will move to 25 mg in a couple of days. My sleep is still aweful and I need to take sleeping meds. What happened with Effexor?

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

Effexor gave me really bad anxiety, heart palpitations and panic attacks. I couldn't sleep at night. Now, I'm taking 50 mg of Zoloft but it seems like it's not enough for me. I'm still very anxious, getting upset easily, have no energy and I have constant fear that something bad might happen 🙁.

[HappyThinkin in reply to Kat2345]

I feel the same as you. The constant punched feeling in the stomach. My biggest problem is sleep so I constantly feel sleep deprived. I also have no appetite.

How was your start up with Zoloft? Did u have any side effects? How's it helping u? Im terrified to bump up thr dose and get more anxiety and insomnia. Lmk how it went for u.

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

I think Zoloft is helping me but I still don't feel good. I can see some changes. I get less panic attacks and I stopped throwing up. I don't sleep very well but at least I sleep.My appetite not that good but at least I'm able to eat a little bit. I started on 25mg. Then we raised to 50mg. Today I took 75mg for the first time. I hope higher dose will do the trick and I start feeling happier. I'm still feeling depressed. Definitely Zoloft is much better than Effexor. I could not sleep at all with Effexor and had very very bad side effects.

[HappyThinkin in reply to Kat2345]

Im glad you are improving. So u haven't had any side effects on Zoloft, right?

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

I had side effects when I started taking Zoloft but they were not as bad as from other medications. I had heart palpitations, anxiety. But first couple days I was taking Clonazepam to ease those side effects. I also was sleeping good while taking Clonazepam. But doc warned me about addiction from taking Clonazepam for a while, so now I take it only once in a few days.

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

Feel free to send me a private message! We can support each other cause both are going through the same thing.

[Kat2345 in reply to HappyThinkin]

Have you tried Melatonin or Valerian root for sleep?

[foxglove_pnw]

Hi Kat , I am so sorry about your father and brother ! I can’t imagine your pain !

Grieving is different for everyone !

Don’t give up on meds ! They do help . I am also a mother so I know how you feel !

Don’t be ashamed to ask for help to friends , family or church !

Feel free to send me a private message if you need to chat !

Hang in there ! ❤️

[Kat2345 in reply to foxglove_pnw]

Thank you so much for support! I need it so much now! How do you deal with your depression and taking care of kids at the same time?

[Kat2345 in reply to Kat2345]

I don't know how to send a private message to smb here.

[foxglove_pnw in reply to Kat2345]

I will figure out and let you know ! I am knew to this site !

[foxglove_pnw in reply to Kat2345]

I honestly couldn’t do without meds ! I hope your medication is a good match and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel ! My kids are much older than yours so I use the time they are at school to do things the fill me up ( volunteer jobs) , therapy etc ! My anxiety has robbed me of a lot of things but I keep moving forward even when I don’t feel like it . I am in a very hard season right now !!!! Praying that this will pass and I can have some relieved! Hoping the same for you ! ❤️

[Kat2345 in reply to foxglove_pnw]

I hope my doc will find the right medication for me. Thanks ❤

[aaronm]

I bet your kids are adorable. I'm a father of...well lets just say several children. Lol. Depression and anxiety are a struggle every day but my children are the reason I keep going. Without them I don't know where I would be.

I hope you feel better soon and I'm glad your here. Reach out anytime.

[Kat2345 in reply to aaronm]

My kids are so adorable and I love them but sometimes I loose temper due to my depression and anxiety. After yelling I feel very guilty. I have two boys and sometimes they fight pretty bad. It makes me very upset. Thank you so much for replying to my post! Now, I know there are many people dealing with depression and anxiety and have kids.

[aaronm in reply to Kat2345]

My depression and anxiety also manifests as anger, actually more like rage. I've never laid a hand on any of them but I do go outside and behave like a child releasing my anger on a tree. I have a punching bag downstairs. I find it most difficult when I'm driving because in that split second of rage I have nothing healthy to do.

[Kat2345 in reply to aaronm]

You must be a wonderful father!

[Amandabridge in reply to Kat2345]

I thought the reason for depression and anxiety was the children 😂 nah I only joking.

I have four daughters and 7 grandchildren. And I am one of ten children. My poor mother was like a referee 😂

[Amandabridge]

Hi kat,

U poor thing, ur head must be in a whirl.

I know what ur feeling is a vacuum, but I promise u it will get more bearable, I found my father dead, and is something I have had to come to terms with. The whole process stinks. Grief stinks, there is no way around it , just through it. Grief makes u question everything, why wasn’t I there? So many unresolved questions, but yet is the most certain thing to happen to all of us. I have taken the positive approach and cherish everything about my family, my life.

And do u know what,I only have to close my eyes and my dad is right there with me.

We are here but a short time really in the whole scheme of things, so I’ll embrace what I have now, cause when I get to be with my dad again it will be for eternity.

Things will get easier, take care AB

[Kat2345 in reply to Amandabridge]

Thank for your support! It means a lot for me now!!!