New Year...new hope?

Well, it's the beginning of a new year, new possibilities, new hope. Unfortunately, I'm having a very hard time being positive about it. I spent the holidays alone, including last night. I feel like that is setting the tone for the new year. A lot of people get sad because the holidays are over but I'm quite glad to see them go. I would really like to make changes in the new year and I even made a list of what I'd like to accomplish. Now I feel like I've just set myself up for failure like every other year. I'm the only one who can make these changes but I don't have any confidence in me. The first thing I need to change is not giving up hope...easier said than done. Maybe this will be the year I actually do it. I wish you all the best year possible and that we can all find some happiness.

[Agora1]

Lolly56, we all mean well at the beginning of the new year. Making promises to ourselves in what we want to accomplish. Sometimes, we don't even make it through the first day

and that's okay. Changes don't happen over night. Don't wipe out the whole coming year

because of a bad or hopeless start. No matter how it ends, we can always make a new

start no matter if it comes in May, June or July.

We need to start with throwing away negative words such as "Maybe" and turn that to

"I will". Getting rid of "I think I can" into "I knew I could". Just the tone of those

positive words can give us confidence in ourselves. We are more than capable if we

believe in ourselves. There is no "failure" if we at least "try". It is a win each and every

time we step out of our comfort zone and go forward.

Happy New Year Lolly!

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

Thanks, Agora. You're exactly right but it's much easier said than done. I've never had any self confidence because it was beat, mentally & emotionally, my whole life. I grew up around nothing but negativity which is why I avoid family as much as possible. Too much of a toxic environment. It's a hard up hill battle, especially with no support system. But I know I need to start climbing up that hill.

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

I too Lolly, have lived with emotional abuse for a long time. I didn't have a great

support forum to lean on. I was on my own and determined through therapy

that I didn't deserve this abuse. I wanted and needed to be set free from a

toxic environment as well. Once I learned to believe in myself and what I was

capable of achieving, things got better.

I was no longer helpless. I knew I would one day beat this emotional dependence

that I had on toxic people. I believed in myself so much that I made a promise that

when the day came that I had "me" back again, I would pass it forward.

It was a long hard struggle but here I am Lolly extending my hand out to help. xx

[Marshall64]

The St. Louis Blues could use some hope too. 😊 I'm also a Blues fan.

[Hidden in reply to Marshall64]

Hi Marshall. The Blues need a lot more than hope at this point. It's been one of the most frustrating and aggravating seasons. I don't know what it'll take for them to turn things around in the 2nd half of the season. I just don't get how they can have a great game with a win one day and then the next game is a total humiliation. Nobody seems to know what the problem is, including the team. One thing is for sure, they need a new captain. Pietrangelo just isn't cut out for the job because he wants to be everyone's buddy. We need a caption who can get the team fired up and will call them out when needed. I think O'Reilly would make a great captain. However the rest of the season goes, I think there's going to be big changes in the off season. Bouwmeeter's contract is up so he'll be gone and I think Steen will be gone as well. And rumor has it that Tarasanko may be gone as well. I think that would be a huge mistake, though. But we'll just have to wait and see. I'm not giving up on them! LGB!!

[tea42]

Hi! I think some times we can set our expectations too high , then we are disappointed in ourselves when we don’t accomplish our own unmet goals. I know I’ve done this, and I’m learning to work on setting more realistic smaller goals for myself each day. And if it doesn’t happen , it’s okay. I will try for another day ! Just being thankful for each new day and whatever is accomplished in it , can be a good place to start😊