I’m pretty anxious ( ok, very), depressed, and frightened. Done with an unhealthy relationship, anxiety about missing my chance for true companionship and love. Depressed about being alone. ( but would MUCH rather be alone than with the wrong person... i don’t go for that... done means done). And feeling like I’ve truly missed my chance ( I’m old). All alone. wth?
AND add on that I start school late January for the second time around to obtain another profession that will sustain me til retirement. Can I learn like I used to?? ( been on klonopin for 10 years; chance of dimentia increased).... just really worried and down. Seems like last few days have been sh@t<y!
Lost my Dad this week and my stinkin bday this week too! Way too much! I’m breaking! 😰
My family doesn’t deal with my illness. The elephant is in the room, but nobody see’s it. Under the rug it goes. They live far far away, so it’s just as well. Have doc who just pushes pills... looking for a new one!
I know I’ll snap out of it, but I think it will take a bit longer than usual. I typically rally and make myself do what I know I need to... but today I’m stuck!
Thank u for your understanding and kind words; they’re helpful. I appreciate your kindness!❤️
T.... every point you brought up is spot on! You hit the nail on the head. I just need to like myself again, and I don’t right now. You are intuitive and insightful and I’m thankful for you! 🙂
I will get a new doc ( interviewing one on the 27th) Thats a process for me, but must be done!
blah blah, i didn’t mean to complain more.... I just wanted to make sure you know how much you mean to me! You’re always there... a true giver! Thank you from the bottom of my now broken heart!!☺️
Hey 👋🏽
It’s okay to be worried about these things .. I think after a break up most of us have these thoughts x but maybe allow yourself to grieve over the loss for now x do things to make yourself feel better x keeping busy helps too ... once you start to sit around doing nothing that’s when the dark thoughts come.. that’s the case for me anyway (last few days I’ve been sitting around doing nothing but watch xmas movies and boyyyyy I’ve hit the lowwwdown crocodiles belly let me tell ya ) listen once you’ve gotten through this and started working on feeling better and your school! Love with come naturally one day don’t worry x
I went back to school after 10 years too ... and yes at first I was a little lost and felt like I’m straining my one remaining brain cell (the rest I lost on family stress okay don’t ask!) I mean I even forgot what a bloody noun was 😳😳😳 took me like 5 mins to remember again looool
Im so sorry to hear about your dad too and bday ooooh boy are we gonna have a paaaaartayyyyy!
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Hope, thanks. I know you suffer, and here u are taking care of me. It helps to know I’m not alone! ( even though i whine about it)! I want you to feel better too! I bet we could have fun and cause a bit of trouble if we could get together! lol!
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Hope... i didnt mean to hit send yet!
I already have 2 degrees and its been over 20 yrs since i opened a textbook and sat in labs. Yikes! And knowing that Ill be surrounded by 20 yr olds doesn’t blow my hair back! ( a saying i stole from Alan).
Oh i just need to quit making excuses, shut up, and get busy. But not today. I’m gonna wallow... but tomorrow I will force myself to get me back on track!!
Truly, thank you!!
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I have 2degrees also. Used to work in labs back in early 2000s. I know how it feels.
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Oh wow what an achievement well done!!!!!
Haha I know that fear I had it too but you know they’re not so bad after you get used to them (lmao it’s like we’re talking about another species goodness ! I’m 27 myself 🤣)
Yeah wallow then get your big girls pants on and get on with it 💪
That’s okay helping other feel better always helps me too xx
I"m very sorry to hear about your Dad. And Happy Birthday...I hope. I really do.
You may recall I went through a break-up in December of last year. And I'm still in mourning. What can I say? I love and need her but failed to let her know.
At least you can say it was the wrong person for you. I unfortunately am wearing that moniker.
I need to go back to school myself and I am just taking time to learn to be a better me before I take on too much. I guess I'm still busy picking up the pieces of my shattered life.
You are taking steps and that helps. I broke first...wish I had it to do over again.
And we are never too old...
I love you. You matter.
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Thank you D! I’m sorry for your breakup. If there’s nothing to be done about .... move on! ( i need to listen to my words)!
Thanks for the love and concern... it means a lot! right back to u ❤️
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I just wanted you to know you are not the only one.
And for me...I have to try.
If it never happens, I will know I gave it my best.
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thats the spirit D!! i wish you peace in your heart!❤️❤️
Aww I'm so so sorry you lost your dad. You are always supporting everyone so I hope you get lots of support to help you now you need it. I am giving you an extra special virtual hug and if I can help you in any way, please tell me. I'm always here for you, just message me. Sending you lots of love, stay strong, you will come through this. xx
You do not mention your age, I am sixty eight, been on medications for Mental Health and a Chronic Disability for over thirty years now. They thought I was coming down with Dementia so I had five weeks of tests and scans etc. I was told and it is confirmed I have a Chronic Short Term Memory Disorder and I have problems remembering the day. I am always in Pain and was trained by Pain Clinic to control my condition and medications.
I now also look at picture books of places I have been and things I have seen.
Two years ago I passed my Level two Power Boat Certificate and also passed my Offshore Radio Certificate. This year we took instruction in the use of a Telescope to watch the stars.
What I am saying, yes I am married, we have a Collie Cross Dog, we take for walks and a garden with Orchard to Manage. I still have my conditions and I need to be able to, like you control my mood and medications.
It is very hard to pick up the pieces of your life especially if you have lost someone who was close to you. It makes matters worse when there is a Death of someone close, however given time the hurt will lesson as you move on through your live. You may find a course of CBT may help where you can talk out your concerns, grief can really take time to recover from especially if you are, through age worrying about your own mortality. You need to talk all this out and your new GP hopefully will arrange that for you.
Try slitting your problems into small bites, deal with each at a time, if you get stuck move to the next until you have addressed each full problem, then you will move on.
Generally speaking when we get older we make do and mend, try and consider using your Tickets before looking for more too learn. Consider diversions or hobbies to take your mind of your worries and Anxiety. that encourages positive thinking.
Your GP may be able to tell you about Day Centres where like minded people meet and talk to each other. You will meet people and make new friends
Good Luck with your appointment tomorrow, you can always return to this site to gain confidence
There is so much to be gained by taking on a challenge like more education. If you're worried about your brain power and memory then this kind of challenge is just what you need as tests have shown learning and engaging the brain actually keeps it strong and fends off things like dementia. So crack those books! Yes it'll be out of the comfort zone and yes there are likely to be shaky days but I'll bet its the best thing youve done for yourself in a long time!! What study are you taking on incidentally?
With regards your heart break and the pain of loss of your dad too, I send you so much love. Its so positive to have standards and requirements from a relationship - shows healthy self esteem that you are able to take decisive action in your own best interests.
Remember you have all that you need to be the queen and ruler of your own life. Remind yourself with affirmations if needs be. Things like I am strong enough, I am resilient, I am taking care of myself, I am headed in the right direction, I am confident, I am lovable, I am intelligent, I am kind.. And so on.. I find that so helpful, though it may sound really kookie lol!
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Not kookie at all! It’s really true... i’ve never really loved myself, but am a confident person. I can take charge of my life on big matters.... but sadness rushes over me about being alone. Anxiety also... yikes! I really appreciate your support, and thanks for your encouragement! I am feeling better today.... made appointment to see a new Doc who is supposed to be amazing 🤞🏻.... been with same doc forever and he just throws another pill at me 😡!
How are you doing? Sounds like you’ve got a good perspective in your life! I hope so! Thank you again for your kindness!!
Hang in there. I am sorry about your loss. I helped my friend through her father's death 2 years ago at Christmas. She has MS and can't care for herself or the house anymore so her brothers are making her sell. I am stressed out b/c I am 1800 miles away from her and can't help with the move.
I agree that having no one is better than a bad one. I decided that a long time ago. There is nothing wrong with not being in a relationship. Find friendships first.
No one is too old to go back and learn something new. I applaud you for giving that a ago! It will keep your mind sharp. You may learn differently now compared to on your youth, but you can still do it.
Thanks for you insightful kindness. I’m sorry about your friend. I hate MS, a cruel disease.
You’re right about friendships... only i have been bitten there due to divorce and I am pretty guarded. My best, lifelong friends live out of state, but we talk often!!
I just read that you lost your dad and I am so sorry, life sucks in that way. I lost my mom on thanksgiving a few years back and my life changed forever ,she was my best friend.
I hope well. Have a good night and we’ll try to connect another time!!😸😸
So sorry for your loss. You’ve got a lot on your plate but you can do this!
Sending positive thoughts and good vibes your way 🖤
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Thanks M! I appreciate your encouragement. I think everybody has a full plate this time of year! I’m a bit better today, but yesterday was a disaster! So, tomorrow is a new day! How are you doing? i hope well!🤗
I know what it’s like to be anxious and depressed. I’ve been there myself and it’s not a fun place to be. But when you go through what you have been through recently, it is easy to feel overwhelmed.
I also went through a rough time after my divorce, and felt like a nervous breakdown was coming. I had to move out of state, find a new job, leave some family and friends behind. It was tough,But there were several things that helped me through that tough time. One of them was my faith in God. I knew He was there for me, even though I wasn’t sure how things would turn out. We are never alone. You are never alone. God loves and cares for you. He wants to help and He gives hope even in hopeless situations. He also gives peace & joy, despite our circumstances or living situations. I’ve experienced this in my own life and am so thankful that He never gave up on me, even when others I loved had. I’ve never had a more faithful friend than the One I have in Jesus. Prayer is a great way to destress. Lay all your burdens down and committ them to God.
“ Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.” 1Peter 5:7. Others care for you too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and connect with a close, trusted friend or family. My family also has been a huge help to me( brother, parents, sisters). Another helpful reminder is to count your blessings. There are so many beautiful things in life that we take for granted. Our breath, clothing, food, shelter, a friend, a smile, etc. Focusing on the positive can change our perspective & make our burdens lighter.
You have a lot going for you. So keep pressing on. Take one day at a time. Take time out for yourself too. Do something you enjoy and invite a friend to join you. You have a chance at a fresh start in life !!
This is not the end. It’s just the beginning of a whole new adventure 😊
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