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[GARP5555]

my daughter has been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and clinical depression- in the past year she is blaming me for her problems and argues all the time- is this common -and how do i cope- i am 66 ,she is 26- its really taking a toll on my health-i need advice

[Hopeful62]

I’m 56. I’ve been fighting my fight for 30 years and I will be fighting it until my last breath.

As will your daughter. But know this, it’s not your fault. It’s not her fault. It simply is.

Please set some rules:

Individual and family therapy;

Medication compliance if prescribed (and it will take a few tries to get the right combo);

Let your daughter know she’s loved,

Let her know she can express her feelings, but her feelings are not ever an excuse to be abusive to herself or anyone else;

I cannot tell you how important group and individual therapy is.

I’m here today because I’m overwhelmed and weepy. I’m afraid. BUT! I’ve learned to reach out for help(and this is helping me)

There is no more shame in living with mental health challenges than any other so-called physical disease.

And lastly, take care of yourself. You can’t help her, if you’re not taking good care of you.

Good Luck to you both. YOU and SHE are not alone.

[GARP5555]

thanks for ur help- tonight i bought everything for christmas eve dinner- she started crying and yelling and telling me how bad of a dad that i am. and locked herself in her room. i am so upset. without anyone else to talk to. i am divorced- it is just me and her, how should i handle this?