Different views, different feels

People who were raised with love see things differently than people who were raised between chaos and pain.

[Indifferentlycalm]

That is why we should respect every person's views

[Hidden in reply to Indifferentlycalm]

Yes we should

[TheatreOvTragedy]

So true! Seems like a simple or obvious truth, yet, the severity and depth this statement holds is life changing and huge

[Hidden in reply to TheatreOvTragedy]

Absolutely

[AZ1970]

You are absolutely correct.

[Hidden in reply to AZ1970]

Thank you

[OT16]

It’s true. Because hurt people hurt people.

[Indifferentlycalm in reply to OT16]

Truth

[Hidden in reply to OT16]

Basically, hurt people needs to heal first or the cycle continue

[OT16 in reply to Hidden]

Yes. Because that’s primarily what they’ve learned.

[Hidden]

Yes I agree, one is seeing things through pain, this can be healed if given unconditional love at some point in their lives.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

The healing process itself is a long road

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yes it is unfortunately. But when God puts the right people in your life, healing is sure to happen. First you have to learn not to worry when you mess up, will they judge me, will they leave me, did I do something wrong. Once you get pass that and understand that ok I may have messed up but I am loved in spite of, and even in the middle of messing up. I am loved despite my short comings, despite my fear, my insecurities. I am loved and I can be myself. Then you can be free to become a better you, to live your best life. 💕💕💕💕

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I am still in that process, but I am thankful, very grateful, very grateful to be a work in progress. You were one of the first people to reach out to me when I got on this site, thank you.

[Celtic27]

Your so right Danielle a loving home usually means the child's been well cared for but unfortunately there are exceptions to the rule! A child who has seen violence of any kind in the home knows nothing else and it becomes a vicious circle! Are you feeling better 🎄🎄

[Hidden in reply to Celtic27]

Yes until that child gets help and find healing the cycle continue, im actually feeling better today, how are your headaches i hope both of us are pain free

[Man_Down]

So much of our well being is directly related to the environment we were raised in. Seems so unfair.

[Hidden in reply to Man_Down]

I agree with the unfairness part, but i guess some of us are the unlucky ones

[Man_Down in reply to Hidden]

So true. Makes things much more difficult for us. We have little control in the environment we’re born into. But we do have control over how we deal with it. It’s harder for us, but it’s possible. Keep your chin up and keep fighting.

[Hidden in reply to Man_Down]

You too hun

[NCAQuilter]

and, then...there are those who are raised in loving homes with all the material advantages one could wish for, never seeing violence. Because of my father's need to prove his lies that my mother was unfit to raise my brother and me, he kidnapped us and placed us with his parents and brother to raise. They were the most loving, caring people one could imagine. Yet, we weren't with our mother, where we needed to be, and who was the total opposite of what our father had depicted her to be.

My brother did four tours of Vietnam, as a death wish, which did not come true. I have been terrified of open spaces, crowds, that he would take my kids, etc.

Sometimes people can inflict horrible pain with the best of intentions. To this day, decades later, I feel guilty for not loving my grandmother, and appreciating all her loving heart wanted to do for us. And it is difficult to understand why I have such strong depression and anxiety coming from that beautiful home.

So you don't have to experience physical violence, or much mental violence to see the world through pain filled eyes.

[Hidden in reply to NCAQuilter]

I get where you are coming from but you actually had loving families and parents there are few of us who don't know what that is, i only see loving fathers on tv so in a way we were damaged from childhood

[NCAQuilter in reply to Hidden]

I get your viewpoint. However, there are more than one kind of ways to damage a child. And, to a child, it hardly matters what caused their damage. It is all terrifying. True, most of those around me were loving, but my father did not know how to love, and was extremely selfish. There is a lot more to my story.

A damaged child is a damaged child. I can't believe circumstances mitigate that. Imagine, if you can, and I understand it will be difficult for you because of your experiences, that you had a loving mother you adored, and were ripped from her arms, not once, but twice. It breaks your spirit. As your experiences did to your spirit.

Because we are all different, and our traumas different, I don't think we can assume that one is harmed more than another. We are all harmed. That is the bottom line.

I feel your pain, and pray you can find a way to lessen it and discover joy. I know it is out there for all of us. We need to keep trying to reach it.

I pray for joy and peace for you.

[Hidden]

I agree with you..however when as a child you were raised in the wrong way please know it's not your fault..100% on them. I know it's not easy to let go of the past but boy if you can...you will be set free! Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy & hugs for you!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I think it's a difficult process and im still struggling with it hopefully i will be successful in the end and see what people mean when they say the word Freedom

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I had some terrible things happen to me as a child, to forgive is so freeing for yourself. I hope you can accomplish this very soon. I wish you all the best. Make it shine today! XXX

[Hidden]

I guess in a way it varies, but there's still a big difference between the two

[Hidden]

Yeah you’re right thats why we need to respect whether we agree or not x

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Absolutely, we do

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

How are you doing today hun

[aaronm]

Danielle your my friend. I always wish the best for you. Your so caring and compassionate. It breaks my heart that you have suffered.