How can I see the positive

[Rebuilding82]

How can a view the positive in a negative situation?

[kenster1]

its hard to break down that barrier inside our heads but think about it this way can it get any worse.if not use it as a stepping stone in the right direction hopefully things will pick up.

[AZ1970]

It depends on the situation. There is always something to be grateful for. What is going on?

[Rebuilding82 in reply to AZ1970]

I've dealt with mental health since 2013. My health insurance was terminated in June so I haven't had my meds because I can't afford them. I have 2 teenagers who I love dearly. My car has been repossessed I do have a way to get to my job. It seems that as hard as I try I believe in God my situation goes from good to worse. I really don't have any friends I have been through a lot in my life, but I know someone out there has had it worse. It's just hard. I have two degrees I've applied for jobs in my degree area and still haven't found one. I currently work as a hairstylist I used to enjoy it the past year and a half. It's just not enough to live on.

[AZ1970 in reply to Rebuilding82]

You do have a lot going on. I can understand why you are feeling dragged down. Perhaps the right job is out there, but it isn’t available yet. You sound like a loving mother who is doing her best. That is a blessing to your boys. I hope things turn around soon.

[Agora1]

Rebuilding82, how you address the situation has to do with the fact if the

negative situation is permanent or temporary. If temporary, than you tell

yourself that this too shall pass and you work on getting your mind focused

on something else or design a plan to change your way of thinking.

If the situation is permanent, then you go out of the circle of the problem and

look at the positive things around you. A roof over your head, food in your stomach,

a bed to sleep in at night. These are things that can provide some comfort to your

negative thoughts turning them to a more positive approach.

This is all depends what the negative situation is. Good Luck, it can be done.

[Rebuilding82]

Thank you

[TairlaMae]

I’m new to this site and don’t know if I can help but I get to feeling better when a situation comes up, I step back in my mind and look at it as though it is a friend going through this and what advice I would give them. A lot of times I can more clearly see what my options are and a better way of how to deal with stuff. I have one close friend and I always ask myself, “What would Connie tell me?”. Then I can usually see more options.