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[Lilo_and_Stitch]

September I got certified to be a Medical Assistant. This week I started my first job. I’ve had three days and already hate it. My anxiety is the highest it’s ever been. It’s making me feel depressed and trapped. I feel as if I cannot leave but I do NOT want to be there. My anxiety is making me unsure if I do apply to other jobs, do I tell them I have one? I feel like a fish out of water. I do not get to do the tasks I was under the assumption of doing. The things that made me want to be a Medical Assistant I do not do. I don’t feel welcomed. I feel like I’ve over stepped a boundary by being there. All I wanted to do today was get to my car and cry.

[jkl5500]

Can you possibly give this a little more time to see how things develop there? Three days is not very long, and they may be only giving you simple things to do because you're new .

Also, people can act very strange toward new employees. Some people can feel uncomfortable when change occurs on the job, and are not good at welcoming new people. It doesn't mean that anything's wrong with you. Why don't you give this a couple of weeks, and if things stay lousy then you can seriously plan applying elsewhere.

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to jkl5500]

I’ve asked about what else I will do. It’s not much more. I was told I will almost never room patients. I want to give it time. I’ve always worked places at least a year and that was my plan here. But I have never been so anxious about being somewhere

[jkl5500 in reply to Lilo_and_Stitch]

Is your anxiety caused by not getting to do what you wanted, or because others there are not treating you in a friendly manner?

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to jkl5500]

Both. With them not treating me friendly and I’m stuck doing things I don’t want it just makes me feel sick to my stomach

[jkl5500 in reply to Lilo_and_Stitch]

It's so sad that you got off to such an unhappy start. If you can tolerate it, I'd suggest giving it a little more time to see if things improve for you. But if you truly can't stand it there (and you're sure of that) then it's a good idea to start looking elsewhere.

[Hidden]

Hi Sandeal20,

Finding your comfortability in a new job is definitely a challenge! I agree with jkl5500 in what was said earlier. Maybe give it some time tho. Maybe in a few months you’ll start to feel more comfortable there. Take some deep breaths when you can, and remember that you deserve to be there. You did the training! It sounds overwhelming what you’re going through, and remember to breath. When you have a lunch break, where do you eat? Maybe ask someone to tag along for one lunch! You’re not alone<3

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to Hidden]

We eat at our desks. I want to give this time but it’s hard when I’m stressed to the point I’m sick. The doctor I work with. On my first day he never said anything to me. It was just weird. I don’t in any way feel welcomed by the team.

[Hidden in reply to Lilo_and_Stitch]

Are you taking care of yourself in the off hours?

That is totally weird! Did any of them introduce themselves at all?

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to Hidden]

I’m trying to take care of myself but it’s hard when I’m so anxious and stressed. A few of the girls at the front desk in the office introduced themselves

[Hidden in reply to Lilo_and_Stitch]

Hi sandeal20!

How was it this week at work?<3

[Flowergigi in reply to Hidden]

It’s really not that weird for some doctors ( I’m a retired nurse)

[Hidden in reply to Flowergigi]

I’ve worked with some doctors, and some can be so chatty, some need that time alone true. But for sandeal20, it sounds like her expectations collectively from the team were let down?

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to Hidden]

Yes nothing is what I was expecting. It has all been so stressful it’s making me sick.

[Hidden in reply to Lilo_and_Stitch]

If it doesn’t feel right, it doesn’t feel right. I know everyone is saying stick it out, but what if you didn’t? Like truly decided to leave, and try a different company or office? Would it be so bad to just try a different place? What other options could you utilize as you think through it all? Do you have health insurance you can use to take advantage of opportunities to use towards your health? <3 you know yourself best<3

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to Hidden]

Yes, I’ve talked some with my doctor. Trying to take care of myself but it’s hard. I’m looking for a different place being hopeful.

[Flowergigi]

Oh please give it longer

The medical professions are so rewarding

I was a nurse for over 40 years and know that anxiety of a new job - especially in the medical field

I think you will be happy if you take it a day at a time and give yourself grace during this learning period

Keep me updated

I am interested and care

[Flowergigi]

I hope things have improved

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to Flowergigi]

It has not improved. It has gotten worse. Today I went to my doctor. my doctor is a part of the company I work for. So she knows my supervisor. She asked if I wanted her to speak with him and I said yes please he isn’t listening. So she is going to. She also encouraged I look for another job and get out of this. She said in my office most people don’t want to stay, and beg to be moved.

[ColdJellyFish in reply to Lilo_and_Stitch]

I think that if your doctor speaking to them does not improve anything, to definitely look for another job. I just recently quit a job that I hated. I kept putting it off because I was so scared of what they were going to think and how they were going to treat me during my last two weeks. I was so scared to talk to my boss. Last week, I stopped by on a day I wasn't working and just did it. I was on a verge of a panic attack, but she just said okay and figured out my hours and last day. I guess one thing that is hard to think about is the bosses have dealt with people quitting way more than we think about so they do not think as much into it as we do. It is so hard to do, but think of the weight lifted off your shoulders on your last day knowing you do not have to come back.

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to ColdJellyFish]

I am so anxious about how the staff will act

[ColdJellyFish in reply to Lilo_and_Stitch]

Well, it really doesn't matter what they think. You need to focus on you and getting yourself to a place that makes you happy. If they do not understand that, then they might not be happy with they're at either. You could be inspiring. And besides, after two weeks, there is a big chance that you will never see any of them again.

Do not let worrying about what other people think stop you from helping yourself. You are the most important person to worry and I think that this would help alleviate a lot of the weight that you are feeling right now. It is hard to do the initial act of quitting, but the relief is worth it.

[Lilo_and_Stitch in reply to ColdJellyFish]

Thank you. This has helped