Am I not alone?

[Nejb]

So the result of my assessment says I'm feeling lonely which is true all the time.

[dee_bells]

I’m sorry to hear that. My son says he is lonely too. I happen to isolate myself and scramble to get away from people.

Are you trying to be sociable? Starting on this sight is a beginning. 😁😁🌸🌸

[Nejb in reply to dee_bells]

As much as I want to try to be sociable, my anxiety always bring me down. I try to smile to them and say hi but they never return my smile or word so I felt a little embarrassed for myself. I felt like am I really existing or am I invisible to others.

From that time on I never talk or approach anyone first because I'm afraid I might get the same ignored feeling from them.

[Jdavid2000 in reply to Nejb]

Hey Nejb...I see 100 frowny faces before I see one smile back. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact most people are caught up in their own thoughts. I learned to think about it this way--Im here self-absorbed about whether or not people like me...so maybe they are too?

Keep putting yourself out there. I get lonely too and the only thing I have found that works is pushing through it and keeping that smile stuck to my face even if I don't feel it. Sadness breeds loneliness and happiness (even if you have to fake it) breeds more happiness. And then eventually you won't have to fake it.

[Nejb in reply to Jdavid2000]

Hi.. Thank you for your response.. Yes, I should think about what they feel too. I will try to put a smile back to my face and towards other people again..

[dee_bells]

Nejb,

Maybe they feel the same as you do? Invisible and embarrassed not knowing what to say. It’s hard starting a conversation—I was painfully shy but I told myself no more and I could talk to anyone. Working in customer service helped me a lot.

You have to push, really push past it because they maybe feeling the same. If they avoid your eyes, they’re uncomfortable too.

I get the feeling of being invisible, my adult son feels the same. He has told me why do I have to be the outgoing one in a relationship? So you get what you want.

Try standing in front of a mirror and talk to that person. Practice and you’re not in visible. You can do it!! I believe in you. 🌸🌸💕

[Nejb in reply to dee_bells]

Thank you. You are right.. I need to push my self though I'm in awkward situations I will try.. really

[Sabio77]

hi nejb, I was wondering how you were doing.