hello its me!

[rainbow121]

just a little post suffered for ten years at worst im agoraphobic im 38 and mother and a nanan had enough of being like this im sure you all feel the same

[kenster1]

hi if it it wasn't nearly my bed time I would be asking for a slice of your cake.my late mum was agoraphobic for 35 year or so it was terrible for her so I feel for you.and she loved baking cakes as well.welcome to the site lets hope you find great help/support on here im sure you will if you keep posting cakes take care.

[rainbow121 in reply to kenster1]

thank you means a lot sorry to hear about your mum

im in bed too and will sign off soon

ive found this site randomly but will be back tomorrow as it look like what i need

and yes there will more cakes to come

you take care too

[StormChaser43]

Hello. What is that yummy looking picture! Oh the dreaded agoraphobia. Been there done that and still trying to not have it.

[rainbow121 in reply to StormChaser43]

same this is this the third time for me im starting to think whats the point in fighting it if it just keeps coming back oh and hello btw lol

[Agora1]

Hi rainbow121 and Welcome to this amazing forum. You certainly know how to catch our attention with a delicious piece of cake.

Having been Agoraphobic for 5 years, I can tell you the day that I was once again able to drive and enter a store was this incredible feeling of being alive again. Never give up. xx

[rainbow121 in reply to Agora1]

aww so pleased for you do you get nervous going back after so long ?

and hello

[Agora1 in reply to rainbow121]

rainbow, it wasn't only 5 years but slow steps in getting out again. It didn't happen overnite. Slow, slow steps from getting the mail, to walking out in the backyard, to opening the garage and just sitting in my car, to starting the car and turning it off, to

moving the car to the end of the drive, to pulling out of the drive and going around the block, to going a little further from day to day to finally making it to the Dollar Tree Store (my favorite) Maybe took a couple months to achieve my goal. My companion was deep breathing my way through each and every step. Took a deep breath, exhaled slowly and entered the store. Grabbed a cart

to keep me stable as I deep breathed. The rest is a blur I was so ecstatic being out

by myself and once again after 5 years going up and down the familiar aisles in the store, that I forgot all about my anxiety.

An hour and a half later, I checked out with bags of $1.00 treasures. Drove home and

celebrated my new life had started once again.

I'd be lying if I said hesitation didn't occur whenever I was to go back out but once I

opened the door and got in the car, I was determined to follow through.

We can't let our anxiety hold us back anymore. We must get control of our lives. Finding ways that work for each and every one of us is the answer. Knowing and accepting this as not harmful physically but coming from a negative thought in our minds, helps us go forward.

We may have days of not wanting to go anywhere and that's okay. Oh... Hello xx

[rainbow121]

its third time ive been like this now all the steps you mentioned are very known to me. well done hun i know how hard it is.

ive been stuck in for a year now im just starting with small walks again but still having to do the breathing and feeling anxious whilst im out just cant wait to come home and im so tired xx

[Agora1 in reply to rainbow121]

rainbow, I so hear you. Sending you a smile and a hug xx

[rainbow121]

xx